We all know the importance that a wedding dress plays in a wedding. Yet, the dress is only being worn one time.
I may get a few people riled, namely brides-to-be, but I have got to make it known to anyone getting married that you do not have to spend a whole lot of money on a gown, seriously. In fact, since 2006 I have been performing weddings of all kinds and during the 8 years which have passed us by, I have come to know one thing for sure and that is that, yes, it is indeed the dress that is a very dearly important part of the day, but is not the only part of the day and neither is it the most important part of the wedding budget. We see so many things online and on television about dream weddings and dresses that are to die for. I get it – I know what it is like to be that excited about a dress. However, over the years the one thing that I have heard the very most about in regards to the budget is how the happy-to-be-marrying couple wants to save money, but the bride wants her dress to be the one she saw in a magazine.
Let’s think about this for a moment, okay?
I see DOZENS of brides every year, and all of them, by the time they come to me to inquire about my services, talk so much about the dress that they want that it seems all else falls away. I can appreciate the idea that every brand new bride wants the dress she wants. Not every brand new bride can afford the dresses that they see in the magazines or the bridal shows or even a designer’s trunk sale. I am about to go out on a limb here to tell you all that no bridal gown NEEDS to be brand new – you can get just as gorgeous a gown at a consignment store, or yes, even the thrift store. Most new brides want the princess effect, but the princess effect costs a LOT of money. In reality, what is actually being created is the atmosphere of the princess bride.
That alone is enough for anyone who has any kind of imagination to start thinking about this as a possibility. I cannot be the only person who knows the realities of the financial status of a whole LOT of people, including those who are being married. But not having a lot of money to invest into a dress does not automatically mean that yours will be an ugly dress. By no means should anyone think that they cannot have the greatest dress on the planet. Thrift and consignment stores offer great value. It doesn’t take an arm and a leg to invest in some beads and some fabric to add to the dress. I have seen some of the most breath taking gowns in the time that I have performed weddings, am shocked to hear about how some of them cost, but am also very impressed with a bride when she tells me that her dress is not brand new, that she took it to the cleaners and then to a seamstress and came away with a dress that no other bride on the planet has because at that point, what may have been something that another bride could no longer stand having in her closet is now something new, beautiful and original – and the best part is not only the money saved, but really, the smirk the bride is hiding because she feels like she got away with robbery.
You are not required to wear the most expensive beautiful gown you can afford. However, with a little bit of creativity and the help of a good seamstress, you can look like you are.