All of us have the friends who complain about everything or the poor victim who always ends up in the dark corner left alone.In my life I’ve met a lot of negative and pessimistic people, it all started with family members,here are some examples: A good friend of my aunt was a man who always saw the negative side of everything.Once we watched a wonderful movie about a former athlete who had rebuilt his life after a terrible injury.He definitely was a role model for strength and hope.He watched the report without a word.When the film had finished,he said:Why have not the doctors let him die after that terrible accident?I did not even know what to say in that situation.His each word reflected his pessimistic perception of life.I did everything to change his attitude but unfortunately it wasn’t successful.In that moment I did not even wanted to talk to people like him,who’s negative perception of the world had influence on me,so I left our conversation.We all are humans and all of us face some short periods of negativity in our life.however,an individual who transmits constant pessimism,always complains about everything,is not doing something himself but still complains can drag you down into the sea of pessimism.Here are some very useful tactics and advices which can help you to decrease the impact of negative people in your life.
We want to be kind,but we should be kind to the people who are kind with us,if somebody is always complaining and drags you down,you should limit the duration you are with him.It’s very good if you can change a person’s pessimistic view but if you can’t do this,limiting your relationship with him is a good idea.Ask yourself how long do you want to be with him?Is it a good for you?Always remember than if a person does not want to change-he will not change. You must take care of yourself,avoid to getting drowned by their negativity.
Try to understand them
A very good tactic you can use is to explore the other person’s world,what happened to them?What is the reason of the pessimism?You should understand them,explore their own world,which may be terrifying and beautiful at the same time,don’t judge them,if the person is important for you,just listen to him and let him know that he can be happy with you.
Admit that there is a difference
And there is one thing:if you can’t change the person,or if that person does not wants to change himself,you should remember that we all are different,people can gain pleasure from pessimistic thoughts too,there is no need for us to have the same opinion,just admit that you see the world differently and get everything out of it.You can’t control them and you can’t convince them to do what you want.Always stay true to yourself.