You may have found yourself in a situation where it seem s like all of your relationships fail. You often wonder to yourself what is wrong with you, why does no one want to have a lasting relationship with you. You may feel depressed and unworthy of love. None of this is true. The truth is that you have never learned how to be in a real relationship. This was my problem for a long time. I grew up in a household where I saw my parents fight on a regular basis. I saw them throw things, scream at each other, and act like children throwing a temper tantrum. Both my brother and I swore we would never get married due to growing up in that situation. We never learned how to be in a true loving relationship. Years later I feel in love, but I still had no clue how to make things work.
Many relationships fail because we as children did not have a good example of how a relationship was supposed to work. We never saw people sit down and talk about their problems, we never saw what real love was. After growing up thinking fighting and yelling was normal, we developed a list of problems that cause our relationships to fail.
One reason people continually have failing relationships is because of jealousy. Jealousy is caused from being insecure in ourselves. When we are insecure, we need all of our mates attention all of the time. If they happen to need to spend time doing something else we become insecure. This is a huge turn off for people, they need to be able to go about their own lives without feeling like you are going to fall apart.
Another reason is that people who crave love tend to rush relationships. I have seen it with several people I have dated. They say I love you within a week, they are talking about marriage before they ever really know the person they are dating. This scares people, it also makes them feel like they are nothing more than a warm body. They feel that they could be any one and that their mate is just afraid of being alone.
Communication, or the lack of it is the third reason why relationships fail. When you grow up in a household like I did, you have no clue how to communicate with people without yelling and getting mad. This will never work. A person will not stay in a relationship where they have to deal with someone yelling at them all of the time. Why our parents stayed together is beyond me but divorce is much more accepted today and people will find someone who does not yell at them. If you cannot communicate effectively that your relationships are doomed to fail.
Those are the top reasons I have found that relationships continually fail. If you find yourself in a situation where your relationships are always failing, you should look at the common factor in each relationship. You! You should take some time to work on yourself before you attempt to get involved in another relationship causing yourself more pain. None of us want to have a failed relationship and it is up to us to ensure that we are equipped with the right tools to ensure our relationship is successful.