Is there anything more frustrating than trying to talk to someone who keeps checking their phone or computer for Facebook updates? Writers do it pretty often. They also get writing ideas in the middle of the night or in the middle of conversations. How can you make sure your writing job doesn’t interfere with family face time? How can you continue to excel in your writing career without sacrificing valuable family time?
Listen to your family.
They know you write for a living. They understand that you’re online to make money. They love you and don’t want to offend you. Chances are, if they mention that they feel like they’re coming in second to your career, they probably are. At the very least, they feel like they are. So, if you care about your family members, make an effort to stay off the phone and computer when you’re together.
Give your friends and family a little credit.
They know very well that not all the time you spend networking online is work related. Don’t insult their intelligence. As your Facebook friends, they know exactly how much time you spend there. When you’ve been posting meme after meme for hours, don’t try to tell them you’ve been working. They know better and so should you. If you have other writers in your family, this is doubly true.
Let Facebook run itself on special occasions.
There’s absolutely no need to go on Facebook in the middle of your cousin’s wedding, just because you got a notification to your phone. In a true emergency, your friends and family have your number. They’ll call you. It’s very unlikely that you’ll find out about your Dad’s heart attack or your Mom’s surgery by Facebook message. Even if a website you’re writing for is trying to reach you, they can wait for the ceremony to end.
What if you really are writing?
My partner is a plumber and I’m a writer. Our careers leave us very little alone time. That’s why I have a policy of doing my work when my partner is at work too. It’s a great policy. I wouldn’t think of ignoring him when we finally do get a few minutes to ourselves. If you must write during family time, be considerate. Don’t do it every day. If at all possible, talk to them about it before pulling out your laptop and firing up your word program. It’s the right thing to do.
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