When you see a woman walking down the street, her makeup is done, nails are painted, and her hair is perfect, she is dressed in the latest fashion and has a smile on her face, do you think she is feminine? Most women would look at here and think something like, “Wow, she must really be needing attention.” This is just how we have been trained to think we have been taught that a woman does not need to fix herself up any longer. We have lost the desire to be feminine.
We live in a time were being feminine is perceived as being weak, women are taught that they cannot be smart and independent and feminine at the same time. We have been taught that we need to be more like men than like woman. How do we define what it is to be feminine? Being feminine is the opposite of being masculine. If you think about that it becomes much easier to understand.
When men are asked to describe a feminine women they answer things like this: a woman who is not loud or aggressive, one who takes care of her appearance and tries to look pretty, long hair that is maintained, who has curves and is not muscular, kindness, gentling, and nurturing.
The problem is that what it means to be feminine depends on who you are asking. To me being feminine means taking care of my children and my home while working. It means that I take care of my body and have no fear of hard work. If you were to ever see me out mowing my grass, you probably would not define me as a feminine woman. My hair is up I am in ratty clothes and I have no makeup on. On the other hand if you saw me out in public you would realize my hair is past my waist, my nails are done, my makeup looks great, and I am dressed beautifully. Which means that depending on the given situation people may perceive someone as not feminine who really is.
To me being feminine is being able to accept who you are as a woman. If you are the kind of woman who is emotional and soft spoken and you are okay with that than you are feminine. If you are the woman who goes fishing with the guys and you love who you are, guess what, you are feminine too. I believe that in todays society we focus too much on what other people think. We worry if all the feminist will perceive us as weak or if a man will decide we are too masculine for them, when we really need to be focusing on what make us happy.
So instead of worrying if you are masculine or feminine, I would suggest to those who are reading to be true to you. If you like pink nail polish and lacy things, than wear them. If you like sweats and a pony tail, wear it. Stop worrying about what others will think and be who you want to be.