You either are going to change, or you’re not. Ask yourself: Do I really want to lose weight? Do I really want this?
All of those years I wanted desperately to lose weight, I couldn’t succeed. I tried everything, and I put my faith, in hope too. I believed in things, and how sad to do that, and have nothing I wanted happen. I know what that’s like. I know how miserable it feels to struggle to lose weight, want it so bad, and have nowhere to turn. I’ve been at that “bottom,” where I prayed something would change. I was disgusted with myself. I begged to look different, and to stop hating myself. The change came. The change can finally come for you too.
Little did I know, that my weight loss attempts were punishment. With the way I treated myself, it was punishment. I never should have tried those things, and I never should have put myself through that. Sometimes we think we know what’s best or the right way, but we are so wrong. It’s not until much later on, after our self-abuse, that we end up seeing it. Hopefully, we do end up seeing it.
I don’t know what made me so lucky, but I was. Not everyone finds weight loss success, but I did. My hope, is that you will too. But, you’ll never succeed, if you’re around unsuitable people, you abuse your body, you expect to much to quickly, and you continue to neglect your needs. I did those things. They were the behaviors, decisions, thought processes, and influences, that made me overweight, and were responsible for my continuing to put on the pounds. I ended up becoming like a forensic scientist, once I started to realize all of the things I was doing wrong, which were contributing to my weight. It was a real eye opener to realize, that these things I did and allowed, could have that much power over my weight. I figured out “which people,” make me overeat and not make the best choices, “which situations” made me overeat and lose food control, and “everything else” I could, which would help me make sense of my being overweight.
That is what it took, for me to figure out the mess I was in. It all began, with getting so tired, of nothing working. You get to a point, where you get fed up with feeling sick, down, and sorry for yourself. I was plain tired of it all. It was my moment of truth. I got so bad with my eating, I knew it would kill me. There was no more room for failure or excuses. I didn’t have anymore time left, to “be good,” or “keep faith” that my weight would disappear if I starved for a month, and everything would be ok. It became apparent, that those things don’t work. Everything I’ve always heard about weight loss, was a lie. I was buying lies. I was buying empty promises. I got nothing in return.
I made many mistakes, and believed all of the wrong things. I was lead astray. Ads and corporations, are very influential. Not many people, put our weight loss and wellbeing first. I had to learn that the hard way. Every time I went to the health food store to buy a new weight loss system or the bookstore for a new weight loss book, I was spending money I didn’t have. I was putting my faith, that those things, would make my life better. Not only did they not make me better, they created a worse situation for me. “I was a bad person, every time I couldn’t succeed.” These were the kinds of thoughts I began to have. “I can’t follow something so simple.” So, I began a life of “try harder.” I wasn’t successful with a diet, “try harder.” I couldn’t starve myself enough days, “try harder.” Next time, I’ll need to, “try harder.” Imagine a life of “try harder.” No wonder I was getting fatter.
We don’t need to try harder, not when it comes to starving and depriving ourselves. We just need to know the right things to do. Losing weight, feeling good, and being healthy, means we feed our bodies what it needs. We absolutely don’t achieve this through strict, unrealistic food and eating rules.
So, you need to decide if you’re going to continue to hang on the fence. If you want to stick with what hasn’t worked, what doesn’t work, and what will never work, be my guest. But, you’ll be making a foolish choice. I want to see you succeed in weight loss, but you’re either going to change or you’re not. Are you willing to change? Are you willing to do the things that really equate to weight loss? Are you going to give up all of your present notions about weight loss? Are you going to stop having unrealistic expectations of how much weight you can lose or what you will look like? You need to accept the changes you can make, to improve yourself, over a length of time. You need to stop expecting everything tomorrow. Successful weight loss doesn’t work like that. All you can count on, is that you will improve little by little. You will grow in new ways, change physically, and see things in a new light. This is the real weight loss process. So, instead of buying into things, believing fallacies, and having crazy expectations, get off the fence, and start doing this work and making the changes I finally did to change my life. Get off the fence, and get actively involved in this weight loss way of life, and you’ll finally have the success you’ve been hoping for. It doesn’t have to “be a dream” anymore. I left my weight loss dreams behind, because they got me nowhere. I live a new, healthy, positive lifestyle, that has so much more to offer me. I didn’t just lose weight, I gained so much more.
So, will you change along side of me, and get off the fence?
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