Having years of experience in dating and being in a committed relationship for the past three years, I have developed a keen sense of understanding women and detecting certain signs. Some women may address the issue of neglect while some would not mention it and take matters into their own hands.
If your girlfriend was to experience a sense of depression and neglect by you, she will either try to explore other avenues of self satisfaction that will boost her self esteem and fill the void, or she will remain quiet and tolerate the internal hurt (which in turn can be both unhealthy for her and your relationship).
So you ask yourself the question, “what should I do to eliminate her feelings of neglect?” The answer is, “make her fall in love with you all over again.” You can easily make her appreciate you again and remind her of your love by following these five simple tips below:
1.) Go on Frequent Dates
Going out frequently may be a disadvantage or an advantage. This plan may backfire against you. You are taking her out while she is in question of your relationship, and nonetheless, bringing her in an outdoor environment where other people can be a distraction to the lusty eye. The way to make this work is to make her feel like you guys are the only two people left in the world despite being surrounded by a heavy crowd.
2.) Give her Space When Needed
This can be a tricky suggestion because you don’t want to give her so much space that she drifts away from you, and at the same time, you don’t want to give her so little space that she ends up feeling smothered. Use your own judgment.
3.) The Element of Surprise
A woman loves a guy who is spontaneous and adventurous. Never follow the same old boring routine. Hopefully, you know your girlfriend enough to decide what increases her wow factor. Any woman would appreciate you going out of your way just to put a smile on her face again. Be creative in deciding your big spontaneous surprise!
4.) Bring Out the Bad Boy Side
Now, do not misinterpret this tip. I am not suggesting you rob a bank to get her attention; although, it might turn her on. When I say “Bad Boy Factor,” I am suggesting you drop the choir boy persona and show her your inner bad boy. Mostly every girl likes to see a guy take charge and show his bad boy side.
If you are too much of a goody two- shoes and do not have a bad boy side, then your girlfriend may find you boring. Show her that you can be every bit of a man that she needs. Show her you have a charming side, a funny side, a sweet side, and a bad boy side.
Listening is the most effective strategy, yet it may also be the most difficult practice to engage in. However, it will definitely win her heart again. I say difficult because many times after a long day of work or just bad timing, their voices can get muffled and tuned out. If you are not in the mood to listen, reason with your girlfriend and specifically designate a time where you just let her talk and you listen.
Listening can make you aware of everything going on in her life as well as what she likes and wants. If every guy would listen closely they would be able to understand their girlfriends better and be able to know what to do to cheer their girlfriends up.
If you follow these five tips you should be able to rekindle that flame and ignite your passion once again. If you have tried these methods and she is still distant from you, then chances are she may already have thrown in the towel of the relationship and drifted so far in the deep end that it would be almost impossible to retrieve her heart no matter what you do.