When I turned 8, my sister had just birthed her first kid. She’s my half-sister and also married till this day, so I think it’s justified. By the time I was 17 though, my sister had successfully ejected a whopping FIVE KIDS! Needless to say, her life as a mother runs 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year…and then some. My life, however, is steering me in a opposite direction that involves two things: independence and discovery, and the idea of having kids just does not sit well with my spirit.
To be honest, I’ve never really enjoyed being seriously committed to someone or something. It’s always okay for a little while then all of a sudden I feel trapped, stuck, completely unable to breathe and for those that fiend for independence, kids are just too needy. Their main objective of their existence is to get you to focus on one thing, them.
- “I’m hungry”
- “I’m tired”
- “I want more milk”
- …And More Crying ensues
It’s hilarious because parents will do anything they say because of two things: they love them and they’re yours. Subsequently, according to The Huffington Post, 35% of parents in our beloved United States love to be parents! Let me pose a question to all (not just parents): How many of you had great things planned for your life? How many of you had kids and never went back to the gym or never went back to school? I don’t want that to be me.
Which leads me to my next point:
When I came into college, I wanted to be a doctor. 4.0 GPA was the end game and nobody could tell me different. I had my whole life planned out at least the next 40 years: I would stay in school for the next 14 or 15 years (GOOD LORD!) become a doctor, pop out a few babies, and live happily ever after. As you can see, my views have changed. To me, this world is so much more than we can comprehend and I want to do nothing more (at this point) than to discover it all. In my experience, with my sister and my family, I have found that your children become the focal point of your life, and I don’t see that as my “happily ever after.” For me, as of right now, the thought of children is very distant while my hunger for a life of wonder grows stronger every day.