Pregnancy can be a wonderful thing for some, and for some, it can be slightly tiring and hard. It’s a time where you finally realize just what a woman’s body can really do. No textbooks can ever describe what it’s really like. Especially if it’s hard for someone to get pregnant. But parenthood is a whole different ballgame from pregnancy. It’s an open door that leads to a lot of possibilities and exciting “first-time” moments. But it’s also very hard to do, Especially if you are a single parent.
- Sleep: You’ll hear the, “sleep when baby sleeps” or how you will probably never sleep again. You never understand this until you do actually have a child. For some, sleeping when the baby sleeps is hard, no matter how exhausted you may be. Babies require a lot of attention and it can be hard to get some time to yourself. So when the baby actually does go to sleep, you might start to think of a million things you need to get done before the baby awakes. Such as, do the dishes, wash clothes, take a shower, EAT! And maybe even work, if you are a stay-at-home parent, like myself. If you are the lucky ones, your baby will be content in the crib or in a comfy chair and will allow you to get some stuff done. Whatever one you get, just remember to breathe. It’s frustrating now to only run on 2 hours of sleep, but it will pass.
- Annoyance: Let’s get one thing straight, if you are a new parent, this is completely normal! Sometimes, parents will get so frustrating, that they’ll feel annoyed by this little human being that’s screaming and demanding to be held 24/7. It’s normal and it’s okay to feel this way. To wonder why you wanted to be a parent or why you even got pregnant in the first place. Parenthood is overwhelming and it takes time to get used to and familiar with. Now if you feel sad or depressed, it’s probably best to talk to someone or your doctor about this. This could be “post-partum depression.” Normal after you give birth, but sometimes it can drag on for too long and that’s when you might need professional help.
- Unsolicited Advice: Being a first time mother, you are bond to run into those few people who will sit there and try to give you unwanted advice on how to raise your own child and what you need to do. Now some advice is much welcomed and very much needed, but then there are those advices where you feel like someone is concededly trying to hint at you that you aren’t doing a very good job. There isn’t much you can do about this, expect tell that person that while you do appreciate their advice, you would like it very much if they would stop being so pushy on you. Not wanting to hurt those you care for, feelings, can be frustrating and a little maddening. However you handle this, just remember, they don’t do it out of annoyance, but out of love.
- Hormones: From personal experience, once your little one starts hitting the 5 month mark, you are going to go through so many emotions.Ranging from excitement, to sadness. But this is normal to look forward to your precious one growing, being excited for all the wonderful(and sometimes, irritating) milestones, while also feeling a sense of sadness that your little one is, indeed, growing up. And no matter how hard we may try as parents, our dear ones will continue to grow, even against our will, before our eyes. I cried a good bit of the first 7 months because whenever someone would mention how big my son was getting or how fast he was growing, it sent a wave of sadness throughout my body, because he wouldn’t be my little infant, for much longer, -but now my toddler. Once he hit the one year mark, I expected to cry again, but I guess I had gotten it all out of my system beforehand, that I really didn’t have many tears to spare at the time. And this is good, because I was able to enjoy my son’s first birthday with true excitement in my heart for what the future held for us.
I’m not going to lie, parenthood is hard, it’s frustrating, and it can be very maddening. But at the end of the night when you put your child down for bed, you are always reminded just why you wanted to do this in the first place and why you continue to do it every single day. I became a teen mom and was not physically prepared for what was to come. And after 4 months of crying because I couldn’t get the baby to calm down and needing my mother’s help at times, I surely didn’t think there was ever going to be an end to all this maddening! But soon came the end to a lot of things and as I grew with my son, I became used to a lot of the stuff I wasn’t. I can run on 4 hours of sleep and still have energy to keep going at the end of the night. Point being; it hard times will end. And when it does, you’ll look back and wonder why you got so worked up over the little things.