Loyalty or love, can you have one without the other? When we follow someone’s lead, is it because we are loyal to them or love them, or both? Right or wrong, some friends and lovers will follow you out a sense of obligation, which can be mistaken for loyalty. When we enter relationships we accept certain social obligations, which may at times challenge our loyalty and love.
Blind loyalty and love, out of a sense of obligation, even when a friend or lover is clearly not in the right, is not healthy or truly beneficial to anyone. However, trust can help us to see through blind loyalty.
The Truth about Trust
Loyalty cannot be developed without trust, both of which take time to grow. Once lost, it is almost impossible to regain trust in a person. The defining Line between loyalty and obligation is trust. Trust, like anything, is built on a foundation of information acquired from experience. Like a sense of humor, some people have had little or no experience in funny things, or they have not learned to find humor in their own life. Thus, they cannot see the humor in others.
Can people develop a sense of humor? Yes, they can. Especially, if they believe a sense of humor can be developed by simply closing a car door on their hand repeatedly. If someone cannot trust themselves then they can never truly trust another completely with their heart.
Jumping from a high building, with a parachute on your back, can be scary if you don’t fully trust the person who packed your parachute; however, if you personally examined the parachute, know how to fold and pack it properly yourself, then jumping off a building isn’t as scary as it is exciting. Just don’t forget to wear a parachute next time you jump into a serious relationship.
Jumping into a relationship without developing any trust in the other person is as funny as jumping off a building repeatedly. There is no humor in it. Following someone out of blind loyalty regardless if they are right or wrong is no laughing matter.
I consider myself a loyal person; however, the depth of my loyalty varies from person to person, and from situation to situation. Why? Because I believe that loyalty is a product of love, however, if someone demonstrates their loyalty to me , then I feel pleasantly compelled to extend feelings of love towards them.
I believe the line that differentiates obligation and loyalty can be hard to see, although, there is a way to distinguish the two. Loyalty is rooted in love, obligation is not. Actions speak louder than words, however, the words “I love you” combined with action can reveal true loyalty. If you are wondering where is the love in your life , then cherish those who are loyal to you and trust you’ll find it.
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