There was a time when I was single and looking for the “one” through online dating sites such as Yahoo Personals, Eharmony, and Match.com. I don’t know what I thought I would find but was optimistic that maybe something would come out of it. I learned five things I really didn’t want to learn.
- Know Your Type– I never thought this was really a concrete need. I went into the “market” believing that hey, opposites attract. Yeah, that’s wrong. Believe me, know your type. Fill out the questionnaire like your best friend was grilling you.
- Don’t Send Money– Now, I am no fool. I wasn’t sending anyone gas money to come see me, babysitting money so she could go out or the other hundred excuses I seemed to come upon. If they ask for money, leave it alone. They are looking for someone willing to send it and never to meet. They will come up with a million begging excuses. Your answer should be, Well Hon, I am not interested. Good Luck.
- Be Wary of I Could See Myself Marrying You– Really, you just met me five minutes ago. All you know about me is what I wrote online and what kind of car I drive. Maybe, if she was smart, she also looked at what I was wearing to try to determine financial status. Run buddy, Run like the Wind beneath your wings or whatever that saying is.
- Meet locally or In between – There is nothing worse than making an hour drive to meet up with some brunette who turns out to be two hair colors and the complete opposite of what you were supposed to be meeting. Nope, before meeting her tell her to send you a picture quick, take one so I will know what you are wearing. If she wants to surprise you, cancel the date.
- Timing– I know we all like to hang out at the club and dance the night away. Get that thought right out of your head. Stop there, this isn’t Alice in Wonderland. Go to Happy hour and decide if you will make it to late hour. It is much easier to stop in for a quick beer and excuse yourself rather than plan on all evening. You can gulp that one beer down and tell her it was nice meeting her.
The best advice I can give is only from what I experienced. The online dating drama I mean world was far worse than meeting a friend’s friend. There were a few good times, and a few I wouldn’t have minded seeing again but for the most part you should just run before you even finish the profile. I was into online dating when I ironically met my wife in the grocery store. True Story!