I think that after being married for many years you take it for granted that it will be forever, but the reality of it is that sometimes it’s not and you find yourself single once again. Depending on your age, there are questions to be answered, things to consider and it is a very personal decision no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
If your spouse has passed away and you’re left alone choosing to remain single and not to date, in to find a new companion might not be the best idea. There are a lot of studies and statistics on the subject but simply said many spouses that remain single end up dying shortly after their spouse. Perhaps they are lonely and want to be with them or they become depressed and just lose their will to live but it does not have to be this way if your willing to start you life anew and find ways to get out there and meet new people.
Deciding what it is you want in the person you would share you life with needs to be looked at carefully. If you had the perfect wife you may look for all the same qualities in a woman, if there were things about her that you did not like you would look for someone who will not repeat this unwanted behavior. It is like you have a blank canvass and get to create you perfect person and the next thing would be to see if there is such a person out there for you.
I believe that in the later stages of life we will make certain sacrifices or allowances in choosing a new mate. You could wait forever to find someone to fit perfectly into the mold you have created and you just may die trying. So you begin to consider the things you absolutely need and the things that you could do without and you create a new mold to be fit.
If all goes well you will have some fun in going out on dates, getting to know someone new, relive some of that excitement that you had so many years ago and eventually find your match. This is not to say that it all goes according to plan and that you make the best decision but it is one that you will have to live with and if you find some bumps in the road deal with them.
Communication has not gotten any less important and all the more important regardless of your age or times married, without it you end up with anger and resentment and that is not what you were looking for, not the way you wanted to spend your golden years.
Here is a link with some information on this topic, it just happens to be the dating site I met my current wife at. You can’t always go by the name of the site if online dating, if I did that I would never have joined this one and found my lady!