Raising a teenager is a pretty stressful reasonability that demands lots of time, effort and understanding from the parent. In these years of shifting hormone levels there is going to be many changes happing with your child. Their bodies are going to be changing, as is their outlook towards you and the world. You as a parent need to understand that this process is a natural development in your child’s life. With that being said there is a need however to have some things in place in order to communicate with your teenager about what is consider acceptable behavior. I have comprised a list of some important tips that I think could help you, like they helped me through this challenging time.
Teaching your teenager to set goals is a critical skill that will help with not only keeping their behavior in check during these years, but teach them the importance skill of task completion. I have my teenager set short-term and long-term goals that will focus on responsibility and future development. Some of these long-term goals are to attain certain grades in school in order to be placed in advanced classes. While other goals are more short-tem chores like doing the dishes nightly after dinner and washing and folding up their clothes. This has helped me instill a sense of reasonability within my teenager where boundaries on behavior are set.
Rule & Expectation Setting
Teenagers look at rules not like a law or an absolute from an authority, but more like how a burglar looks at a security system like it is some sort of an obstacle course. As a parent you need to communicate very clearly to your teenager the rules and the expectations you have set up for them. There cannot be any misinterpretation about what the rule or expectation is and what the consequences might be if their behavior is outside of the boundaries that you have set. I allow my teenagers to help with the boundaries setting process. I think this helps them learn how to set boundaries for themselves that are acceptable to authority figures that will help them in the future in their career.
Set the Example
Remember you kids are always watching you, learning from what you consider to be admissible behavior. If you want your teenager to follow the boundaries that you have set, you yourself must be willing to follow the same boundaries. A good example of this is a phone call when running late. If I am ever going to be late, I call my son and let him know that I will be late. Since I exhibit this behavior I expect my son to do the same. “Don’t talk the talk, if you can’t walk the walk” to say If you want your teenager to be responsible, you are going to have to show them what a responsible person looks like. I hope these tips will assist you in helping set boundaries for your teenager.