I have a 4 year old daughter, and she is very well behaved when it comes to tantrums. However, she wasn’t always. When my daughter was around 2 years old she use to have tantrums and throw fits when she couldn’t get her way. I thought to myself, this has to end! I started to learn effective ways to handle tantrums that I would like to share with you.
One of the most important things you do for your kids is to set standards. They need to know what is good behavior, and what is not acceptable. Standards need to be set from how to behave at home to how to behave in public. Also parents, we need to set standards through our own behavior. If our kids see us having “adult tantrums” when we are angry, it’s going to be quite hard telling them not to do it. Its important to set a good example.
Consistency is key. If you want your child to respect what your saying, you need to be consistent. I told my daughter if she throws a tantrum (jumping up and down, screaming, kicking etc.) then she would get a certain punishment. As hard as it is to take away a toy or not go somewhere fun etc. I had to follow through, so next time she would believe me, and realize that she will not be rewarded for bad behavior. Which brings me to my next point.
Use an effective punishment
When having to use punishment make sure its age appropriate, and also something they care about. If they love playing with a certain toy, then tell them that toy will be taken away for a period of time. I did this when my daughter threw a fit. and just.Telling her it would be taken away if she didn’t stop worked after while.
Sometimes when your kids are behaving badly, you should just walk away. Going back and forth with them can make the situation worse, and even more embarrassing especially if your out in public. If you are in a public place of course you cant just walk away, but you can leave where you are and leave your child to cool down at home. My daughter didn’t like the fact that I was not giving into her tantrum. She soon realized that nothing good would come of her behavior, not even attention.
Explain why their behavior isn’t acceptable
After my daughter would cool off, I would explain to her that it is okay to be upset because everyone has their moments. However, I told her that was not an appropriate way to handle it.
Reward good behavior and progress
When you see that your child is progressing, make sure you notice it. Let them know you are proud of them. Praise is a great reward for kids because they want to please their parents. Good attention and love is always something your kids need from you.