What kind of wedding have you always dreamed of? Have you ever worried that your tastes might not be traditional enough for people, or that you’re trapped and swimming in traditions you don’t want to stick to? Times are changing, and you shouldn’t be afraid to have a wedding that expresses who you and your future spouse are. If you don’t want to have a traditional white wedding, with a traditional cake and traditional colors, then don’t. Your wedding should be what you, the two people getting married, actually want.
Your wedding attire
The traditional, white lace wedding gown that we recognize today came from Queen Victoria’s white gown and lace veil. Before that, brides typically wore other colors, including red (though royals did sometimes wear white before Queen Victoria did). After that, Europe’s and America’s elite classes saw white lace as fashionable for weddings. However, you don’t have to go all out for an expensive, lacy white wedding gown. And your fiancée doesn’t have to go all out for a tux.
Check out these pictures of non-traditional wedding dresses, if the traditional white, lace gown doesn’t suit your style. You and your fiancée could even coordinate your outfits so you compliment each other up at the altar.
The wedding cake
Wedding cakes are another area that you and your fiancée can show off your uniqueness. Traditional wedding cakes have all sorts of fillings, but are usually tiered and made with white frosting. Do a Google image search for “non-traditional wedding cakes,” and you’ll find tons of pictures and ideas. You can even have a “cake” that’s made of doughnuts or cupcakes.
The wedding vows
There are also your vows to consider. Traditional wedding vows are great if a traditional wedding is what you want. They’re also good if you’re really nervous about opening your soul and emotions, including possibly crying, in front of a crowd of people, or if you just feel you can’t express yourself well through writing. However, if the two of you would rather express yourself in your own way, then writing your own vows is the perfect way to do that.
An article in the New York Times quoted Lois Kellerman, who has officiated hundreds of weddings, as saying that writing your own vows can add a lot to the ceremony. Others who were quoted in that article said that having their own vows made the ceremony far more meaningful. And the vows can be anything you want, anything that expresses who the two of you are as a couple, and how you see your commitment to each other.
In other words, the wedding of your dreams doesn’t have to conform to old traditions if you don’t want it to. You’ll have a lot more fun, and far more enjoyable memories, if you do what you want to do, instead of what you think is expected.