When you find yourself in a situation where your partner has cheated you will face many emotions. You will also have to make a choice, should you try to fix the relationship or should you let them go and move on to the next part of your life?
This is a very tough decision for some to make, although it may seem like it is easy to those who are not in the situation. When you love someone and you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with them only to find out that they have cheated on you, you find that you lose all faith with in yourself. You may begin to blame yourself for them cheating. First you need to stop thinking that. When people cheat it usually has nothing to do with the other partner. It is a lack of something within themselves. You need to believe that you deserve a partner that does not go out looking to fulfill themselves in someone else.
Now you need to do some thinking. Many of us have heard that once someone is a cheater they will always be a cheater. We have also heard that if you support your partner and show them that you love them you can overcome the affair. Which of these is true? It can be true that once someone cheats they will continue to cheat in the future. What makes this true is that if they can get away with it the first time they know they can get away with it again. You see if a person can hurt you that deeply and you forgive them they know you will forgive them again. They will also get better at hiding it from you. Now looking at the other opinion that you should support your partner and work through the affair, this will give the partner who cheated a huge amount of attention from you. Have you ever heard that children behave in a way that gets them the most attention? When we give people attention for bad behavior we are just reinforcing that behavior. The same works when you have a partner that has cheated.
You need to think about your feelings. Are you depressed because of the affair? Has this changed your attitude about yourself? Do you find that you cannot look at your partner the same way? Are you unable to be intimate with your partner? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you should end the relationship. No one has the right to change how you feel about yourself. No one has the right to cause you pain. You have to take your future into your own hands and move on with your life.
It is my opinion that if you are in a relationship where one partner has cheated, you should quickly end the relationship. We should never allow anyone to feel like they have the right to treat us that way and we should stand up for ourselves and say it is not okay. It is a personal decision but if you are facing this situation I hope this article has helped open your eyes.
