Every parent knows that the first year is the most difficult year mostly because it’s the most sleep deprived time your child will go through and put you through in their life. Sleep is an essential resource for parents, one that we lack most of the time. It took me a whole year to figure out how to make my child sleep on her own, and I want to share with you the top 3 secrets on how to make your infant go sleep on their own.
It may sound easier said than done but once your past the point of no return, with no sleep training, then you will wish that you had sleep trained your little one earlier. The prime time to sleep dream your child is between 3 to 6 months. This is because they will easily adjust into a sleeping routine.
Sleep train when they are sick
As bad as this might sound it really does work. My daughter slept in a hammock for the first year of her life and I could not get her to go to sleep anywhere else except for the hammock and she had to be rocking, she was very picky and would not sleep anywhere else. It wasn’t only an inconvenience for me, but for her as well, because she didn’t know how to make herself go to sleep and couldn’t enjoy going outside because she would become too tired without a nap. Sleepless night after night I contemplated a way to sleep train her to the point that she would sleep in her own bed. Lo and behold, they say “when you ask you shall receive”, and the next day my daughter came down with a debilitating ear infection that literally took all the strength she had to fight the sleep training off. I felt terrible for her, but I knew she would be more comfortable in a different sleeping position. So I took this as an opportunity to try sleep training. Within 3 days I was able to have her sleep in her own bed, and going to sleep by herself without any consolation! She was already sick enough that she didn’t want to fight with me, and just agreed to go to sleep by herself at the age of 1. Although I did keep it in mind that she was sick not feeling good, and very uncomfortable, so I did stay around to console her. She quickly got the idea that it was easy and more comfortable if she just slept in her own bed. I didn’t even have to use the Ferber method, I just went and every few minutes to tell her to go to sleep and too encourage her but it’s okay to sleep by herself.
Differentiate between whining and crying
To sleep train your infant easier you really have to pinpoint that fine line between whining and crying so that you know when it’s appropriate to cancel your infant during sleep training. What I did as I just set a timer for 5 minutes and I would go in every 5-10 minutes of she was crying unless she was whining and blubbering. If she was whining I would just let her get it all out, but it really did take me sometime to understand the importance of defining a fine line between whining and crying. If you go in every time that they cry they will be more likely to use that as a weakness and call for your attention, which wouldn’t help them learn to fall asleep on their own. This is not using the Ferber method at all. Learn to recognize your infant sounds and if you think that they are crying because they’re in pain or uncomfortable been trying to pinpoint the problem, is the room too hot or cold? Are your infant’s clothes bothering them? Are they are uncomfortable? Hungry or diaper change?
Extra tips and advice
Time management is absolutely vital. Make a routine and stick to it, this will help your infant learning how to sleep much quicker and painlessly. It can be very frustrating with in the first few days trying to get to understand how your child is adjusting to sleep training, but consistency is very important. If you start sleep training in the middle of sleep training it will take longer to actually sleep train a child, it’s okay to set limits for yourself for example if your child is whining to a point where you think you need to step in, set yourself a time limit for example every 5 to 10 minutes you could go in and check on them.