Although I recently purchased my first smartphone, I haven’t jumped on the selfie bandwagon. Maybe it’s because the days I fix my hair are far and few between. Maybe it’s because I don’t post a lot of pictures on social media at all. While a lot of the selfies I see make me smile, I can’t help but think that this trend is destructive.
Like texting, taking selfies is another bad habit that leads to distracted driving and, sometimes, death. The other day, I was driving when a teen in front of me was swerving all over the road. Of course, he had his phone up and looked like he was taking a picture. According to the huffingtonpost.com, in late April, a woman was reportedly driving while texting and taking selfies. Moments after updating her Facebook status, she was was in a wreck that took her life. At the time it may seem like fun, however, a selfie is not worth your life, or someone else’s. There is already enough activity on the road. Drivers need to focus on stoplights, other cars, pedestrians and traffic signs. Taking your eyes off the road for a minute is dangerous.
Selfies often start out as something fun to do. However, sometimes, pictures that were supposed to be “just for fun” or private end up posted on social media…..for everyone to see. Often times, teens don’t realize that their naked or scantily photos will get leaked. Yet, it happens. In the case of two Mexican teens, a naked selfie led to murder. According to abclocal.go.com, “a teen in Mexico stabbed her best friend” an astounding “65 times for posting naked selfies of them together on Facebook.”
Narcissism and Self-Esteem
No, I’m not calling you are a narcissist for posting a selfie. In fact, I like to see pictures of my friends….on occasion. It’s the people that post selfie after selfie that makes me wonder if these self-portraits are feeding narcissistic personalities. The International Business Times reports “smartphone selfies” have been “linked to mental health conditions that focus on a person’s obsession with looks.” I’m not a mental health expert. However, perhaps, taking frequent selfies is a way a person’s disorder or narcissism manifests itself. In other words, selfies are fuel for our narcissistic tendencies. It also reveals our society’s obsession with looks in general. After all, if you ever look at the comments under a selfie, the majority have to do with a person’s looks. At any rate, I think selfies have the ability to make or break a person’s self-esteem. I can’t imagine what a series of negative comments under a teen’s selfie might do to an individual’s self-esteem.
A selfie can be a fun way to express yourself! However, if you do decide to take the selfie plunge, remember to abstain from taking a selfie while behind the wheel. And, don’t ever take a naked selfie of yourself or anyone else. After all, naked pictures have a way of finding their way into public arenas.
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