As a woman pushing 30, I can admit I’ve spent my fair share of time thinking about wedding proposals. It’s hard not to think of when you’re constantly asked questions like “is he the one?” or being told “you’re not getting any younger.” It seems like relationships in your late 20’s are always running in fast forward toward the engagement, the wedding, the kids and then who knows what? It would be absurd if I said I hadn’t thought about the type of proposal I imagine.
For a woman like me who loves the outdoors, a typical proposal over a romantic dinner just doesn’t seem right. So, here is my guide to popping the question outdoors for all the lucky men in love with the nature-loving types out there. Much like love – it may not be easy, but it’s always worth it.
Let the Weather be your Guide: Many people want to have every little detail planned out when it comes to a marriage proposal, but if you’re looking to pop the question outdoors, that will be close to impossible. Weather is always going to be a factor. That’s why it’s best to do one of two things: A) Have a flexible date. If you don’t have a meaningful date set, plan to do it during a certain month. That way you can change the date depending on the weather rather than trying to make the weather conform to your plans (good luck with that). B) Have a backup plan. If you are one of those types who wants to propose on a holiday or special occasion, make sure you have a couple of options. If you want to make it special and Hurricane Katrina II decides to make a surprise visit on your big day, have a plan B. It’s easy to make a rainstorm romantic if you’re with the one you love, so if you can’t take your nature girl for a sunny hike, plan a rainy day camp-out complete with a bottle of wine and lots of blankets and listen to the rain fall as you pop the question.
Don’t Force It: If the day or event isn’t panning out as planned, don’t force it to happen. The weather is a factor as well as the setting and the way your future fiance is feeling. If you had a big physically demanding day planned and you’re #1 has a sudden case of food poisoning, it’s best to postpone. So, keep in mind that an outdoor proposal leaves you open to mishaps and obstacles and sometimes, it’s best to just try again at another time.
Make the Most of the Situation: Although this contradicts the “don’t force it” rule, if you’re really set on proposing, just make the most of it. If you’re dating a woman who loves the outdoors enough for you to want to propose to her outdoors, she’ll probably understand and appreciate a few bumps in the road. After all, isn’t it “for better or for worse?”
Don’t Slouch on Romance: Just because you are planning an outdoor proposal with a beautiful natural backdrop and laid-back approach, doesn’t mean you should skimp on the romance. It’s easy to be romantic out in the middle of nowhere. The idea of dropping to one knee in a busy restaurant is intimidating to say the least, but doing so on a tropical white sand beach isn’t nearly as much. Every woman pictures a man dropping to one knee to pop the question, so keep the old world romance by getting your pants a little dirty. The outdoor proposal is the perfect approach for a woman who loves nature. The best proposals tap in to her passions and happiest memories, so think of a place she would love, maybe one that holds a special significance for the two of you already and get down on one knee for the big event. No woman who is ready for marriage and in love can say no to a man on one knee surrounded by natural beauty.