The online dating world is a mysterious place where human beings of your dreams frequent. They are all good looking and have a lot going for them. It’s a place where you can feel comfortable talking to people that you don’t know, particularly members of the opposite sex. My largest reason for online dating was that it was easy. I could meet multiple people in one night and actually have a really good time talking to all of them. Everyone seemed to have something interesting to say, and on late nights where I had nothing much else to do, it was a favored concept. I have several tips to help those who haven’t “mastered” or taken the plunge and tried it just yet.
Tip number one: You will meet a lot of people. More people than you would normally meet in a typical day. Most of those people aren’t going to be right for you and may not even like you. Don’t get so emotionally vested in a picture and typed out words on a screen. Look for friends and just take it lightly until you can actually meet face to face.
Tip number two: Tip number one brings me to my next tip. Some of you will say, well duhhh, but I have to say it anyway. Meet in a public place at least five times before taking it further. You never know who you are meeting and the internet is full of people who like to lie. It’s a magical land for them to carry out their fantasy life, and some will even take is as far trying to bring it into the real world, and it never ends well.
Tip number three: Not everybody is photogenic, and some people are too photogenic. Nobody looks exactly the same in a picture as they do in real life. Once you meet somebody, you will question whether it is them or not because you honestly didn’t know what they truly looked like. Not everybody uses filters or photo shop either. Don’t discount that person with the large nose and frizzy hair with two dogs and a Bachelor’s degree. They probably look a little different (better) in person. They are at least being forthcoming and are comfortable with what they look like, which is a rare trait in the dating world.
Tip number four: I’m not going to say that everybody on dating websites isn’t desperate. All I can say is that I wasn’t doing it out of desperation, and I’m sure there are a few more breeds such as myself. I was tired of meeting people in bars and was literally clueless as to where I could meet people that I was actually interested in getting to know. If the person you are talking to seems to get angry when you don’t respond to their email “right away” (for example), run far far away from that. They have been doing this far too long and it is for a very good reason.
Tip number five: I didn’t meet my significant other on a dating site, but I did have a lot of fun meeting people and figuring out what it was I did and didn’t want. Some dating sites promise marriage will come out of it, but I will be honest and say that’s pretty rare. It’s more of a place for people to, like I said, figure out what they do and don’t want. I’ll say it again; don’t get too emotionally vested in cyber people. They’re real people, but may not be the right people for you. There’s nothing wrong with asking somebody you talk to online to meet up with you and your friends at the bar you will be going to. Keep it light and airy and if it’s meant to go somewhere it will.