I will get this out of the way first by saying I completely support marriage equality. I support that two adult individuals should have the same rights as everyone else to love who they wish, make a legal commitment to that love and cultivate those personal choices for themselves. I am also not gay.
This subject creates a whirlwind of emotions on both sides of this debate. You will find everything from scientific proof that homosexuality exists in nature, to people who staunchly believe we are all being punished for the sexual deviance of it because homosexuality is not supported by God. Which ever stance you take on this debate, like any other important issue, the first thing to do is put aside your emotional reactions and then take a look at it.
Let’s start with God. First of all the United States was founded by people who were escaping religious persecution. Basically, they were being punished and even put to death for worshiping God how they wanted to. This set the tone for the Constitution, several wars and the Declaration of Independence. Slaves were still legal and Women had very little rights but that is the point of growth in an ideal, we have worked hard at changing those laws to stand up for the heart of the matter.
People have shed blood and died over equality. No one should have less of a choice than others just because of skin tone, gender or anything else that makes them different. This entire world is a huge ball of granite overflowing with human beings of many types. We do not get to decide that one person is better than someone else based on personal beliefs. In fact God? specifically scoffs about this type of judgment.
Next I want to address The Law. Now, why do laws exist? I feel like people don’t actually think about this or even ask this question. To make something that seems rather complicated as simple as possible, I’ll just say this: The Law exists to protect our individual rights. Individual rights such as the right to live, pursue happiness, worship how you wish, work, love, play and feel protected from others trying to affect that freedom.
For example? If someone breaks into your house and steals your things they have affected your freedom. You have had things stolen from you that were your possessions. Possessions you purchased freely to make you happy. The thief has now taken that from you, and there are laws in place to punish them for doing so. They have committed a crime against your individual rights.
If you pick any law you can backtrack it to existing for that main purpose. From labor laws to traffic laws, they all exist to protect peoples individual freedoms. Laws are not meant to be made from a religious belief. When this begins to happen the laws are now affecting themselves and not maintaining the protection of our rights. The minute we start making laws based on one person, or group of people’s religious point of view we have just committed the very crime that pushed people out of their homes and to this country in the first place.
You do not have to agree with same sex marriages. You do not have to support same sex relationships or agree with their choices. You don’t even have to agree that people are born the way they are, or any of the other dozens of side issues that distract from the actual issue. You can even believe, as backwards as it feels to me, that God believes it to be a sin. None of these personal beliefs have anything to do with this very valid and important issue: Freedom and Equal rights for everyone.
There are only two questions you really need to ask yourself when considering marriage equality. One, If two adults choose to enter a personal contract of marriage with each other does that affect my own individual rights? Two, do I believe in what the United States founded with equality and freedom?
We are fighting the same battle we always have just in a different context.