If you’re sick of the bar scene, a local gym can be a great way to meet single men without having to contend with drunks, poor lighting, and loud music that renders any decent conversation impossible. In my experience, the gym offers a wide variety of guys to choose from, who have the pleasant common trait of wanting to be fit and healthy. Showing up to the workout room is only one step, however. Here are a few more factors to consider to help you meet the guy you want to date.
Try the Local Park District or Community Gym
Skip the chain “meat market” health clubs if you’re looking for something besides a hook-up. Most communities have a fitness center and sports complex where you can meet normal people who want to stay fit and active. You’ll find a better range of ages–our local center has teens all the way to seniors–and a range of fitness levels. From musclebound gym rats to long-distance runners to guys just trying to work off a little beer belly, you can find a single man that’s your speed.
A date is always easier to find if he comes to you first, so having a pleasant appearance can help show you’re interested. If you’re in a wrinkled tee three sizes too big and the pajama pants you slept in last night, it doesn’t really send the message of “I’m looking.” You don’t have to get dolled up in Lycra and full make-up, but some new cute gym clothes and a little waterproof mascara definitely won’t hurt.
Going alone or with just one girlfriend makes you more approachable to guys. I’ve even gotten hit on at the gym when I was with my mother, so it’s not who you bring, it’s how you act. If you and your friend are talking nonstop and ignoring everyone around you, it’ll be tougher for a guy to interrupt. Definitely don’t wear headphones, read a magazine, or stare at the wall. Look around, and smile at any interesting guy you see checking you out. You have to give men some signals to work with.
Explore All Your Options
Go on different days and different times; you’ll get a different crowd at the gym depending upon the schedule. Peek in on any fitness or strength-training classes to see which ones have a lot of guys you might be interested in and then join up. Hang out at the swimming pool to chat with businessmen doing their morning laps, and never count out the cliche of the cute lifeguard.
Try to get in on any mixed sports leagues, or take a girlfriend and see if those two guys playing tennis would like to try a doubles match. Even checking out the guys’ teams as a spectator will give you the opportunity to meet more available men. Single guys are looking too, so if you show up on the field, they’re going to be happy to see you.
Get to Know the Staff
Unless they all seem like lethargic teenagers, get to know the gym staff. It never hurts to be friendly with people, and once you get to know each other, they might be able to tell you if that guy you’re checking out is married or divorced. Your cute trainer probably isn’t available, but he might have a friend or another client he’ll introduce you to. The more people you know, the more single men you potentially have access to.