If you are in the market to find a great therapist, don’t settle for less. Here’s a guide to help you pick out the best therapist for you.
1. You want a therapist who can remember your name.
You might have to see a therapist a couple of times before you can decide if they are “the one” or not. I’ve had therapists in the past who called me the wrong name. This was a red flag. If you want someone who can truly help you out you need someone that can truly know and understand you. Try finding a therapist who only has a set number of patients/clients that they see. If a therapist is seeing as many people as possible every day they aren’t taking the time to get to know and understand each person which can actually hurt your therapy.
2. Traveling may be worth it.
If you are looking for the best therapist for you try looking in nearby towns and cities instead of just the town you live in. Some therapists specialize in different fields, such as marriage or mental illness. It may be worth it to travel to a therapist who specializes in something that pertains to you so that you can get the best therapy tailored specifically for you. When I was younger, I would attend group therapy that was over 30 minutes away from my home. It was only offered at that specific location but in the end I think it was worth it to travel to receive that specific treatment.
3. Decide if money is a deciding factor for you.
Therapy and counseling sessions are not cheap. If you don’t have insurance you might find yourself paying over $200 per session. Luckily for me I had several therapists to choose from within my health provider’s network. Unfortunately not all health providers cover mental health. If you have insurance check to see if mental health and therapy is covered. You will save a lot of money if it is and should be able to find out which therapists you can choose from within the network.
4. Male or female can make a difference.
Picking a male or female therapist can make a difference. Sometimes it’s just easier to talk about some personal things with those who are the same. For an example, it’s much easier talking about the correlation of mood swings with your menstrual cycle with a female therapist than it is with a male therapist. For males it might be easier to talk about the stresses of business with a male therapist. Those are just two examples but there can be many more and it’s worth thinking about when picking your therapist.
5. You want someone you can easily talk with and understand.
I’ve personally have had doctors in the past where I had a hard time understanding their accent, which made doctor visits difficult at times. Try not to be judgmental, but if you truly can’t understand your therapist, or maybe even they can’t understand you, you might want to get a different therapist. If you speak another language than English try seeking out a therapist that speaks your other language. This just might make everything easier.
6. Common interests can be great.
Sometimes it’s hard to open up right away during therapy. I had one therapist who had dogs and had many pictures of them on the walls of her office. Usually we’d start the session out talking about dogs and other common interests we had. This made it easier to talk and to get the conversation going. It’s really great if you can find a therapist that has something in common with you because it makes it feel like you are talking with someone you want to talk with and not someone you have to talk with.