Today it seems as if most relationship start online. You either meet up on a dating site, or a popular social network, such as Facebook. With some relationships, it may start off online, briefly, but end up being a completely traditional offline relationship, or the relationship can simply stay online for a variety of reasons. Both ways seems to be successful, depending the couples involved. And it’s becoming clear on the many differences and similarities when it comes to online and offline dating.
Once both the similarities and differences are better understood, I think, you’ll have a better time deciding which one is right for you, depending on your situation. Some people may prefer offline, and others are okay with having a relationship online.
Similarities and Pros:
The similarities between online and offline dating are pretty obvious, if you pay attention. When meeting someone online, you develop a sense of trust with that person that can easily turn into a bond. With offline dating, you pretty much have the same experience. In both situations, precaution is always a must, however. When you start to develop a bond with that person, you start to feel more comfortable growing closer to them until they’re all you think about. Alas, a relationship is born. With offline, it’s the same process that takes the same amount of time. You exchange numbers and call each other, and slowly you fall in love. If your relationship began by meeting the person online, and then progressed to meeting each other in person and going out on dates, that would be the only difference in this situation.
You slowly get to know each other’s likes and dislikes, hobbies, favorite foods, movies, and music. You spend time together getting to know each other more and more. With online you’re doing that with technology, and offline you’re simply doing it in person. With online dating it’s easy to develop something genuine because it isn’t based on a physical appearance which, sadly, too many people pay more attention to. Online dating can also allow for a relationship with someone who lives far away from you. Distance doesn’t have to hinder your relationship, if both parties involved want to be with each badly enough. It’s always good to be able to meet a wider variety of people, that come from different social circles than you.
Time not spent physically together will allow a true test of whether or not your relationship is meant to last. They say time apart is healthy, however in this case, the entire relationship will be a good experience and will let you know whether or not it’s worth a try offline. And an online relationship will allow you time apart for doing random things, or things associated with a career or school, without any interference.
Differences and Cons:
Obviously in online dating, you can’t physically go out on dates as with offline dating, although you can set up “dates” to meet to do a variety of things while speaking with each other online. Sometimes in offline dating, you’re going to want to be more affectionate with your partner, with hugs and kisses. You can’t get that if your relationship is limited to online, which can become frustrating at times. Affection is important when it comes to any relationship, and without it, it can sometimes make you either think about ending things, or will cause you to want to meet in person. One thing that can make that situation disastrous is the “catfish” phenomenon.
With online dating, a person’s physical appearance is sometimes fabricated simply because you want to impress the person you’re trying to date. And in this day and age, a “dynamite” physical appearance seems to be what drives a person to want to date certain people. With offline dating, that’s one of the things you see and have to think about all time. “Are we dating because of my looks, or are you interested in the type of person that I am.” A major pro and difference with online and offline dating.
Although you get a great idea of what a person is really like online, sometimes seeing how they truly are in person can be a world of difference, and you may not like it. Here, it’s more than just about personality, but also their habits. If you’re lucky there won’t be much of a difference at all, but you never know.
Another difference and con, you can’t meet your partner’s friends and family properly. Sure, you can always meet them online if you’re using Facebook, but online, you can’t meet them properly, and sometimes your partner’s parents won’t have Facebook at all. Meeting the people that is important in your partner’s life is essentially a good thing. It’ll help you figure out more about the person than the side of them that they give you and it’ll also help you understand their upbringing better, or why their personalities are the way they are.
Whether you decide to physically date, or stick to an online relationship, be sure you know what you’re getting into regardless of which one you choose. Both have benefits, and both have aspects that you can do without. The entire world of dating can be good experience if you’re careful, and most of the time being careful and smart about your decisions is all it takes. So have fun and enjoy. You never know what it may lead to.