Who would have thought that every photo in the internet nowadays would be of himself taken by no one else but himself? It started with young girls doing “duck faces” with matching peace signs taken in different angles. I find this rather cute if the girl happens to be naturally gifted with camera loving features. Usually it’s taken in the privacy of their little rooms away from other members of the family – but would end up seen by 1000 plus friends including real friends, relatives, neighbors, classmates and would you guess – the parents, once uploaded in Facebook few minutes later. Photos of tiny and enormous cleavages flood the girls’ profiles. I guess they want the world to know – that anyone who would love them will get that extra bonus. Others show their best flowing hair – making their friends with short and dry hair green with envy and maybe more boys begging for their attention.
I have seen photos of legs, nicely pedicured nails, tattoo shots in different parts of the body, butt of all sizes and colors. Most of them have no faces so they remain anonymous but would be accompanied with caption that tells you it’s them. Some have humorous shots pretending to be asleep with a caption that says “sleeping”. I guess the camera is an alien and took the photo while the guy sleeps. Girls with just blossoming bodies take pictures of themselves in skimpy bikinis in front of the mirror. The result would put Kim Kardashian to shame.
I guess we all want the world to know that we also have what the models and celebrities have. We are special too and we want everyone to know.
I think part of being human is to be always appreciated and adulated. We do our best to be the most beautiful, to be the best, to be the richest or strongest or even be popular. I do not mean around the world. Not everyone is gifted with such luck. Not everyone can be Bill gates or Mark Zuckerberg, Angelina Jolie or Miley Cyrus. We can only be ourselves. If you have friends, say six, and you happen to have always the best selfies everyday of the week – then you are already made in that sense of the word.
I have tried it a couple of times myself – I can say I was truly satisfied. I get to pick my best angle. I get to make the best smile I didn’t know I had. I get to find the best lighting for me. I guess taking your own photo brings out the best in you – as they say. And who would know I photoshopped it? With pink lips and nice blush, I can be a little fairer too. And the best part is deciding which to upload and show the “world.”
We have to admit it is sometimes awkward to smile to a stranger or rather the camera he was holding. Even a relative makes you waste your best smile – when he is slow in pressing that click button. I hate when I have to keep that smile there for few minutes with dried lips, my eyes starts to squint because he is still focusing his camera – on who knows what.
And this generation has a lot to thank for. Their smart phone with front camera has made them a celebrity in their own way. And celebrity everyone is becoming.
Should we vilify the selfie enthusiast? Do they pollute the space we live in? That would be saying we should go backward and hide in the caves. Humans are a lover of beauty and a lover of oneself. If we deny ourselves with such satisfaction – we are stagnating in our quest for discovering each other.
We are in the midst of technological wonderment. We are like the caveman when they discovered the fire. They get excited and for sure burn themselves in the process of discovering its uses. Selfie is here to stay and will be a part of human discovery. It is self liberating but has its dangers if taken too far.
I would use these rules in taking selfies:
Do not take pictures of you doing things sitting in your toilet bowl. Either you would laugh at it few years from now or you would be tag as Miss Toilet Bowl 2014.
Flush the toilet bowl before you take that fresh- morning- look shot. We do not want to see chocolate floating in your bowl.
Uploading selfies with a caption that says -“sorry, I am ugly.” We know that, and we feel sorry for you too.
If you have a gorgeous body and face, you might as well send it to modeling agencies so you get paid for it rather than letting your classmates drool on you.
If you are a mother and you have your kid’s friends in your lists – please do not upload selfies of you in underwear. It is embarrassing. When you see them in school programs, do not wonder if they smile at you from ear to ear.
If you are a father, do not upload selfies with your girlfriend, your neighbor might see it and report to it your wife.
Do not take selfie on a cellphone that was lost by someone. I will bet my laptop, you will be in the “police wanted” the next day.
Do not take selfie on a running jeepney. A running snatcher will beat you into it.
Lastly, selfies are meant to be enjoyed and shared. Be self reliant – save money for the best camera phone. Be self imposing- why not? It is your phone, it is your time and it is your life. Make it worthwhile. Let it serve you in a positive way – after all it is always being about yourself. If no one appreciates you – about time you appreciate yourself too. If we are satisfied in the smallest part of our life – even just a photo of ourselves – then we can face the world with a happy smile. Ask Ellen.