Secondary infertility is something that is very frustrating and, at times, heartbreaking. I had no problems becoming pregnant with my first child. However, after having her, I talked with my doctor about various types of birth control since my husband and I did not want to have another child right away. We decided on an IUD, which worked great while I finished up my education. I had nothing to worry about. Shortly after graduation, my husband and I decided we wanted to have another baby. I visited with my physician and she quickly removed the IUD and was told that I should not have any trouble conceiving. Little did we know, that was not going to be the case….
What is Secondary Infertility?
Secondary infertility is the inability to get pregnant by a couple who has previously had a pregnancy, despite frequent, unprotected sex for a least one year in women who are under the age of 35, or for six months in women who are older than 35.
There are many causes to secondary infertility such as:
- Impaired sperm production, or function
- Fallopian tube damage, ovulation problems, endometriosis, or other uterine conditions.
- Complications related to previous pregnancies
- Changes in age, weight, and the use of certain medications.
I expressed my concern with my primary physician about our inability to conceive. After talking with us, she requested blood tests to check my hormone levels, and I received a physical. I was diagnosed with ovulation problems. We were instructed to try for one full year to become pregnant, and if after that time, if we still had not conceived, we would consider treatment options.
Years went by without my conceiving a baby, four years to be exact. I personally did not choose to meet with my physician about various treatment options so that I could have another baby. I believed in my heart that if God wanted to bless me with another baby, He would. So we prayed.
This may not be an option for everyone. This is just the option that I chose for myself, and for my family. There are many fertility treatments available nowadays. It is best to discuss these treatments with ones primary care physician or gynecologist. After meeting with ones physician, choose the option that works best for you, for your family.
It was very hard on my family as we desperately wanted another baby. My child, prayed constantly for a sibling. She didn’t understand why other kids had brothers and/or sisters and she did not. It was very hard. We all struggled through this. This was a very emotional time for us all.
My family and I went on a short vacation to see my family out of state, as we had not seen them in many years. However, when we returned home from relaxing vacation, a miracle happened. I got pregnant within one month of being home. My family and I were excited. Our prayer had been answered.
I feel that I am truly blessed that I was able to have another baby. My family now feels complete. If you are experiencing secondary infertility problems, meet with your physician to determine the best course of treatment and options available to you. Make a decision that you feel the most comfortable with. I truly believe that God does not close a door without opening a window.