What does it mean to be emotionally available in a romantic involvement? This question has kept me awake many nights. As a rather detached person, I struggle with availability in general. Though after much work and lots of seeking I have been able to overcome the need for the protection that distance allows. Being available does not mean that you are ready for marriage or even a deep emotional attachment. It means that you are present for whatever impact the exchange will make.
The first sign that you are becoming emotionally available is investment. In the areas of your life, particularly romance, where you once remained neutral you are finding that you have an attachment. Again, this does not mean that you are ready to commit. It simply means you are growing towards having meaningful relationships in your life.
When walking within the confines of detachment, there is no need to share. Distance is the key and communication puts a damper on that. When you feel yourself become willing to share, this shift indicates a level of availability. You have outgrown the need to hide and finally want to be truly seen by those you deem worthy.
Being available has never before been an option because it carries a risk. At this point for whatever reason it seems to be worth it. You are ready to connect with another person on any level. Be it casually or intensely the depth does not matter, the act of connecting is a step in the right direction. While this will feel uneasy at first, the discomfort will only help you grow.