For a love relationship or a marriage to achieve real meaning, there must be a good measure of consciousness between the partners. It is that consciousness that breeds romance. And romance means the special words, actions, gesticulations and other expressions of two lovers or spouses that reinforce their relationship and make it an intensely happy affair. There are various other definitions which describe romance’s different angles that make love and marriage relationships extra-ordinary. One such definition is given by Romanceinmarriageorg:
Romance is pleasurable, devoted intimacy that enables two people to become of one heart, one mind, and one body.1
The above meanings suggest that romance is the dynamic ingredient of a love relationship or a marriage that helps the life of that relationship or marriage to flourish with happiness. The Bible book, Song of Songs, endorses romance when it uses expressions of personal reinforcement between lovers, for example, “How handsome you are, my dearest; how you delight me!” (2: 1:16, Good News Bible) or “The look in your eyes, my sweetheart and bride, and the necklace you are wearing have stolen my heart” (4: 9, GNB).
How it is generated
Romance is natural; it only needs to be activated. Beside the consciousness pointed out above, it comes out of love’s creativity, initiative, humor, sensitivity, etc. A partner is expected to be on fire with love, and always in the mood to say or do something good to the other and for the other’s benefit or for mutual benefit. In addition a partner should characteristically be on the lookout for how to help the other, either in solving a problem, or in fulfilling a role, or how to please him/her in some other ways.
Flexibility is also necessary for making romance possible between partners. A partner who is officious, that is to say bossy and self-important, and one who is a perfectionist, will both have to scale down those qualities before being able to easily exercise romance. Similarly, a person engrossed in matters of his/her profession or in internet surfing and using social media without self-control may not have time and the spirit for romance. Sacrificing egoism and personal hobbies means one is there for the other and able to put love at work.
The Power of Romance
Many are the attributes of romance. Here are some of them: Romantic love builds confidence in the partners. By that confidence each partner is able to open their hearts to the other easily and to talk freely about their joys, hopes as well as fears. The importance of confidence in a relationship cannot be overstated, for confidence is a must-have if for example there will be good enough marital communication. Romantic love also builds mental and moral strength in each other, creating trust and commitment in and to each other. Trust and commitment help the partnership to be unshakable by undesirable eventualities like temptations of unfaithfulness and adultery. They also help the partners to stand together when faced by the challenges like sickness and financial difficulties. The solidarity created by romance becomes a shield at such times. Last but not least, romance between partners creates an atmosphere for adequate sexual desire and mutual satisfaction which is one of the pillars of marriage.
It Reduces Chances of Divorce
A marriage which is on romantic footing has the ability to avoid breaking or divorce which is usually caused by disappointments and boredom.