When one society engulfs another, often the result is either a mingling of the two if not the utter decimation of the culture of the weaker society. The wealth of their learned knowledge is lost or becomes trivial artifacts. This background reference is important to understanding the origins of our topic. If you were hoping for literature on dom/sub fetish role play, you will be disappointed. However, if your interest is in the cultural origin of that lifestyle then you may find this interesting.
To understand the dominant persona in a relationship, we must first dispel some misconceptions. The dominant in relationships typically refers to the dominant male, but the gender isn’t necessarily important. The origin of the dominate/submissive relationship does not begin as a sexual fetish or even as a lifestyle, but as a means of survival. Many ancient cultures exhibited the dominant/submissive relationship structure, but we will focus on that of the Native American culture.
Little factual historical information remains of Native American society. In truth, there were many societies among the Native Americans. What remains today are only remnants of those societies kept alive by what remains of an entire race of people nearly eradicated from the face of the earth. Of those societies, that of the Apache exhibited the dominant/submissive relationship in which we hope to examine to understand our topic. The true dominant.
It is a popular misconception that Native American braves simply took their chosen mates in simple caveman fashion. The truth is somewhat more complex. In the Apache society before the introduction of European influence, the male had to learn the skills needed for survival. This included leadership, hunting and following herds as well as protecting the tribe. The roles were expected and clearly defined. Each season, the young braves who came of age were reviewed by the young females of the tribe. The factors that defined a suitable mate had nothing to do with his bank account, career or BMW. A suitable mate had to exhibit those characteristics conducive to survival.
If a female lost her mate as a result of warfare or he got eaten by a bear she could starve. Her mate was her sole means of support. Conversely, a male had to choose carefully which female he would accept. If he chose poorly, his food could be prepared poorly or spoil. His shelter could fall into disrepair or his pelts would be inadequate to keep him warm. Both the males and females exhibited their skill at performing the day-to-day tasks of survival. This is what defined their suitability as mates. Physical fitness and suitability for childbearing also played a significant part. Odd man out, or woman, meant a long solitary struggle to survive the harsh winter. So now that we have a background basis, perhaps we can understand the role of the true dominant.
The true dominant is not simply a role played for the submissive, but encompasses every aspect of daily life. The true dominant must exhibit the ability to thrive in his/her environment. Leadership and assertiveness are vital to the character of the true dominant. To the submissive mate, the dominant is a provider and protector. Alas, to the chagrin of the fetish, the true dominant/submissive relationship is a monogamous and lifelong relationship. The true dominant’s role is to honor and protect.
Source: The topic references the author’s study of his own Native (Apache) heritage as well as discussions with Native (Apache) family elders.