“Real Woman Have Curves” is the new manta. “Thin is out”, “the thigh gap is ugly”, “nobody wants to cuddle a stick”. Now, I’m a thick woman, I always have been and probably always will be. I’ll never look like a Victoria Secret model because my hips are wider, my rib cage is wider, and I am bigger framed. However, this is my body type; I was born with it, just like the woman born with a disposition to be thin is born with her body. She is no less a woman than I. Thin, fat, skinny, thick, curvy, boney, does not make you any less of a woman. It seems to me that skinny is the new fat and thin women are getting ridiculed for being who they are.
Insecurity breeds bullies. The problem with these new ideals that “Real Woman Have Curves” is that we are forgetting a very important statistic. 68.8% of Americans are overweight! Overweight is not “curvy”, overweight is UNHEALTHY. There is nothing “real” or “beautiful” about being unhealthy. It’s not appealing. The idea that it’s now okay to be fat (yes I said it!) because “REAL WOMAN” have “curves”, is ludicrous. Reality Check: Fat is not curves, fat is fat. I can say this, I was obese, and I still am overweight! But I’m not giving into this idea that I’m allowed to be this size because it’s now more appealing. I’m still going to work my butt off until my fat turns into curves. Because yes, curves are sexy- fat is not.
What is a “Real Woman” anyways? Am I to believe that my size-two friends are not real? They are somehow a figment of my imagination? My blessed-with-the-body-we-all-know-we-wished-we-had friends are in fact, fake? No, they aren’t. They are here, real, and just as beautiful as the next girl. Some thin girls are blessed; others work their butts off every day to be fit and beautiful. The women who’ve worked tirelessly on their hard, fit bodies are somehow now not beautiful because they don’t have the same curves? I call bull-sh**.
So what is this new hatred towards skinny chicks? It is jealousy? It is insecurity? Is it an excuse to remain unhealthy? A combination of all three? If your skinny friend on facebook posted a picture of an overweight thigh next to a fit, muscular thigh with a description that read “Real Woman Don’t Have Fat”, would we appreciate the stab at our appearance? So why is it any less offensive to be showing a skinny woman’s legs with a description that the “thigh gap” is gross? Woman should be sticking together, and bringing each other up, not putting down each other for the way we look. Regardless of whether you are thin, or fat, curvy, or boney- you are beautiful and so is the next. So woman, PLEASE stop with the bullying. Love your body, get healthy, and stop being so negative!