The main thing to keep in mind when dealing with a child that has been diagnosed with A.D.D. is that they are going to retain the things they are interested in the most. That means that they will still be looking up to you for guidance and although they may not be learning the same way as other children, they are still learning. This is why they will need some feed-back from you that indicates when they are making progress. Doing some interesting activities with your child will help them to focus on the family, school work, activities and hobbies, as well as responsibilities and bring their self awareness up.
Ask yourself what they seem to enjoy doing the most. What kinds of things are they interested in that may not seem like it has anything to do with growing up? This could include toys, games, t.v., drawing, or whatever else they choose to spend their free time on. The chances are that those things can be associated with the things they will need to know while they are becoming an adult. For instance, if they like to draw, they might be good at making blue-prints later on in life. Whatever they seem to focus on the most. This will do two things: It will bring your child to a better understanding of his talents and capabilities, and it will show him or her that you are concerned about their well being.
Communicating with your child
Once the two (or three, if you have a spouse) of you build some rapport, take care not to punish them when they are not paying attention, for instance in a conversation or while doing home work. They really can’t help it. This is what the affliction is all about. Reward them when they do good and have patience with them if you see them start to steer off course. Take the time to talk to them about how they are feeling.This is one of the most important things. They are going to be learning in a way that takes time and patience, but remember, it’s probably the most rewarding thing you could be doing for them.
Medication is not an over all treatment
A.D.D. can lead to bad behavioral patterns throughout the individual’s childhood when it’s not managed properly, such as criminal behavior. While some may think medication is the only answer, it’s not. Children that get treated with medications such as Ritalin or Adderall can actually become addicted to the dopamine high that comes with them, therefore looking for that same feeling when they become an adult. Think twice about just getting prescriptions from the doctor throughout their childhood.
The Ultimate Reward
As you may or may not realize as you’re raising your child, you will be learning as well. You will be creating a powerful bond that will last for ever if you just take the time to be aware of his or her development. This will mean that you will have to gradually give them space to do things on their own as they grow up and get a family of their own, and it may be a little hard. That’s natural. Just keep in mind that this is what the ultimate goal was all along. To help them to be able to stand on their own. They will never forget it!
Further reading from the author:
Parenting: A Father’s Guide
Can We Still Learn Things as We Keep Getting Older?