I met my wife through the online dating process; we began our relationship through MSN Messenger. My wife and I have been married for over seven years now. Online dating can turn out to be successful if used wisely. The online dating scene has many twists and turns that can make for a very interesting journey to go through. Here are my top five lessons learned from online dating:
Top 5 Tips
5. Avoid people who phish for personal information
Scammers are very good at phishing information out of unsuspecting people. There was one time I was talking to a woman on Yahoo chat; she was a very smooth talker. About 15 minutes into the conversation, the woman asked me to help her with a money problem that she was having. The woman wanted me to wire some money to her, but she needed my checking account number first. I told her that I was the wrong person to ask and immediately discontinued talking with her.
4. Make sure the person’s profile picture is current
People like to put the best picture of them on their profile picture. Unfortunately, the best picture of themselves was from 10 years ago or so. A lot of change in the person’s physical characteristics can change during that time. I once went on a blind date with a woman from Match.com. When I met her in person, I did not recognize her – she had to introduce herself to me. I was shocked to find out that she put up a picture of herself from ten years before because she did not want people to see much she had let herself go.
3. Look out for red flags in the conversations
Looking out for red flags will help you to think twice before furthering your online relationship with the other person. One time I was talking with this lady on yahoo chat who claimed she was single. After talking with her for a while, she slipped up and accidentally texted me that she couldn’t make it home for dinner on time – she called me her husband’s name!
2. Make sure you talk on the phone before meeting the person
Talking on the phone would be a very good step to take before meeting the person face to face. One time I was chatting with this woman for a while on MSN Messenger and I finally got her number to call her. When I called her, she sounded like a guy masking his voice as a woman. I ended the talk immediately after figuring out that it was a man.
1. Meet at a public place
Meeting at a public place would be the best choice for a blind date. There has been quite a few times that I was glad that the place was public for the blind date meeting. I have met some pretty scary women with big attitudes from the online dating scene. People are much less likely to cause a big scene in public places.