Statistics indicate that the number of young adults who remain at home with parents is steadily rising. Attitudes regarding this issue vary, because, people often relate to and advise others, based on their own experiences. This is especially true when it comes to young adults leaving the nest.
There is a consensus among many, that 18 is a magic number and ready or not this is the age when a young man or woman moves away from home. Not every young adult however, is capable of, desires to or needs to move, and there are varying reasons why.
My mother in law died in 2005. My husband’s oldest living brother passed away in 2012. Those 7 years were the only time in is 60 years of life, that he did not live with his mother.According to my husband, his brother purchased a home for his family in 1973, after leaving the army. He, my husband, their mother, and the oldest brother moved into it. A middle brother was living with an aunt and uncle.
In 1981 my husband and I married. In 1984, the oldest brother died. This left the brother who purchased the home in his name, living alone with his mother. He said he stayed because it was his home, and he did not desire to see his aging mother trying to make it on her own. Although he never married he had a good job for 40 years, dated, traveled, was a champion body builder and lived a full life.
As soon as my oldest son graduated from Radford University, our then pastor and his wife, separately gave my son unsolicited advise. They told him to move out quickly. This was because they put their own children out as soon as they turned 18. I told my son that he was welcome in our home for as long as necessary. I added that if he moved out, and could not pay his bills, he better call his pastor for help.
By remaining at home, mmy son was able to complete a Masters degree from Regent University. He worked wo and sometimes 3 jobs, and also helped care for his great grandmother who was living with us. He was especially beneficial when my husband was out of work. Like his uncle, he dated, traveled and lived his own life.
A relative who spent time in a local homeless shelter told me that he saw young men who were living on the streets because they had been kicked out of their homes, as soon as they turned 18. My youngest son has friends who are sleeping on the floor of other friends apartments for the very same reason.
Each situation is different, and this is why we cannot paint every young adult living at home, with the same brush. The economy today, as well as personal factors all play a part in this situation. This is why those who believe that the 32% and rising number young adults who remain at home, are lazy, are based on statistics are wrong in most cases.