For most of us in the real world lays a line. A line that if crossed must result in your handling of the situation. For some of us this line gets crossed by our witness more times than we’d like to admit. For instance the drunk in the alleyway who tries to cop a feel whenever an attractive woman strolls by. If this was to occur in front of us then there would be a moral obligation to handle the situation appropriately, by force if necessary, by words preferably. Its the damsel in distress clause and men and women alike take part in it.
Have you ever been sitting out on your balcony when all of a sudden ear piercing screams of hatred start to ring across the neighborhood? Turns out its the neighbors from the back and the husband and wife are going at it like a couple of angry wolfs. You don’t know who started it nor why it’s happening and you really wish not to find out, unless of course you’re one of the nosy ones. No instead you just want your peace and relaxation back, not somebody screaming I HATE YOU AND WISH YOU WOULD F$%*ING DIE!! Nope, about a minute of that and your nerves start to boil over, you pace and question what actions you should take. Should I call the Police? If I do that then they might get into a lot of trouble and cause a complete melt down of whatever family they have left. I could just go over there, but then I might get dragged into the middle of the fight and my voice heard by both of them could cause some stress filled neighbor issues. If they’re open enough to argue as they are, allowing the rest of the neighborhood to hear their relentless criticisms and empty threats, then best you just stay out of the way. Out of sight out of mind as some might say.
So then what? What shall anyone do in these situations, sure we can play it off as if when it gets quiet again then everything is fine. Although there is a small possibility that it got quiet for all the wrong reasons. How do we know? Of course if we see it in plain sight without blinders on while physical torment is occurring then the easy choice is no doubt a no-brainer. From yelling and crying, well then only can you assume and usually our minds allow us to assume the worst. Best bet, trust your instincts. That’s really the most anyone can do. If you are a fearful person and think something terrible is going on and needs to be handled by the authorities, then by all means, make your move to help and put your worries at ease. If you are use to the threshold of craziness and understand that anger fades and couples can calm without intervention then again by all means throw the dice and let it ride out.
I myself let it play out and trust my instincts to know when somebody may be in danger. However, I’m not ever going to be the type that causes more trouble than needed because I’m being indirectly disturbed, that’s just not nice, kind of selfish and unproductive. Give people a chance to vent, or if it occurs frequently without fear of physical harm then get use to it. Either way your human instincts of survival will kick in and protect those in need, if needed. Today my neighbors were going at it hard core with a lady who sounds like Howard’s mother from Big Bang Theory, she was screaming irate slurs that even the best linguist in world wouldn’t comprehend. I wasn’t sure what to do until I wrote this and realized life comes at us from all angles and it all depends on what reflection we want to perceive it. Sometimes our reflection changes and allows us to evolve into a better state of mind. The couple in the back were last seen kissing and hugging, I’m glad I trusted my instincts.