My now-fiancé and I bought a house together in 2013 after dating for two years. We had extensively discussed getting married but we also saw how quickly the housing market was recovering. We had to make a decision whether we wanted to finance our wedding or our home. We definitely couldn’t afford to do both at once.
After much discussion and debate, we agreed to pursue buying a house. In the end, it proved to be well worth it. We found a home that was perfect for us and the home buying process was one that tested not only how well we worked together but it tested our commitment to each other too.
Not long after, my fiancé and I rekindled our discussions about marriage. There was one last obstacle that stood in the way of our engagement: my fiancé had to ask my dad for my hand in marriage. It may have seemed silly, especially since we had already bought a house together, but I knew my dad was looking forward to the day when he would be asked for his blessing and I was his only daughter and his only chance at being asked. It was important to him.
So, my fiancé was not concerned with asking me to marry him. He was worried about asking my dad his permission to marry me. There were many chances when my fiancé and I went over to my parent’s house so that he could ask. However, he had a hard time finding the right time. Eventually, he settled on asking my dad one afternoon by beginning his monologue with, “Think about your answer carefully since I have already bought a house with your daughter and your answer will determine how awkward the next 30 years will be…” and after my dad recovered from the initial shock, he gave us his blessing and a big hug.
Since we had my father’s blessing, all that was left was my proposal. Almost as though it were was testimony to the unconventionality of our relationship, my fiancé asked me to marry him as soon as we got home. He lead me to his office, pulled the ring box out of its hiding place, got down on one knee, and asked me to marry him then and there, with no muss, no fuss.
I, of course, said yes.