You don’t have to sacrifice your life the moment you become a mom; you modify it. I gladly modified mine and have no regrets about it.
I am college educated with a BA in Communication from Loyola University of Chicago, and I chose to become a professional photographer the moment I had a baby. This was my best decision ever. I could be with my child full-time (no feelings of guilt of working moms), make decent money while working on weekends, and be a well-rounded, professional, and up-to-date modern woman, in general. I got the best of both worlds. What more could I wish for?
There is no ultimate of a right or wrong decision: whether you choose to be a stay-at-home mom, working full-time, or balancing both, it is totally up-to-you. You are the one who has to be happy with your decision and no one else.
I chose marriage, motherhood, and a career, and I feel totally fulfilled with my life choices.
Here are my top reasons why I did what I did:
1) To be a mother is my number one priority in life.
The moment I had a baby I decided to devote my entire life to my child. In my opinion to be a good mother, you cannot do this important job part-time. You are a full-time mom no matter what. Morally, this is the only job you are not allowed to fail. You cannot quit it because you lost interest or simply feel tired or bored with it. The value of motherhood is priceless. Mothers are responsible for raising the new generation, and if they are successful in doing just that, it is the biggest gift they can give to the society.
2) I did not trust any babysitter to raise my child or take control over my household while I was working away from home.
I would not be happy with any babysitter: be it a relative or a stranger to replace me even for a short time to do as good job as I wanted them to do. I would not be happy or satisfied with the food choices they might have made, books they might have read, or any other cultural, recreational, and sports activities they might have selected for my child. I always wanted to be in charge of all of these aspects of my child’s life and no one else.
3) I did not want to become dull, stupid, boring, and disconnected from the mainstream society while staying at home.
I chose to work from home. I became a professional photographer, which gave me the flexibility in terms of work. I could decide when, where, and how much I should work. It was elaborating to become your own boss. The job itself is creative, artistic, fun, and financially rewarding. I made full-time salary by working just a few days a week; the rest of the week I spent raising my child. Meeting with clients, photo editing, and marketing I was able to do with my baby by my side. My husband babysat our daughter on weekends while I was physically away at my photo shoots. In addition, I never felt financially secure by completely relying on my husband’s salary; it was never an option. In today’s society you can never be sure in tomorrow: your husband can lose his job, divorce you, or suddenly die and you might have to start all over. If you never had a stable job in your life or never acquired a professional trade, and you are not financially savvy, it would be hard or nearly impossible for you to get a well paying job in the future; it is the fact of life.
In short, make wise decisions, which will suit your believes, your life style, and lead to your ultimate happiness.