Is having good manners something that has become a lost art? It seems like that sometimes. Let’s review some basic ones and bring them to the forefront and out of hiding.
Say please – When you are requesting something from someone, start or conclude with the word “please”.
Thank you – If someone gives you a compliment acknowledge it by saying, “Thank you”.
Belching and burping – After enjoying a hearty meal you may accidentally belch or burp. Immediately say, “Excuse me”. If done intentionally it is simply rude and unwanted behavior.
Eating with your hands – While there may be a few exceptions to the rule, such as eating finger foods– forks, spoons or even chopsticks are utensils used for eating.
Talking with food in your mouth – It’s nice to want to be a part of a conversation but be sure that your mouth has no food in it. Imagine food escaping your mouth in mid-sentence and landing on someone or something. How embarrassing that would be.
Talking on your cell phone at the table – I love modern technology but unless you’re expecting an urgent call refrain from using it while eating with your family or friends. It gives the impression that they are not that important.
Being disrespectful by calling someone out of their name – Calling someone by a derogatory name is unacceptable and uncalled for. Just as you would not want to be called something offensive don’t allow yourself to do it to someone either. Nicknames are acceptable if that is what you commonly are called.
Too much food on your plate – How irksome when you are at a dinner to see someone piling their plate sky high. It shows a lack of consideration for other guests who have yet to get their food. It is particularly troubling when the food is thrown away and not eaten.
Domineering the conversation – Don’t hog up the conversation by not letting others get in on whatever is being discussed. You may not be the only one who wants to express their opinion on a matter.
Cutting in line – If someone has been waiting in line to pay for something, don’t jump in front of them and claim you were there first when you know you weren’t. While you may be in a rush, that other person may be too. Think before you act. Unfortunately at times it can lead to an all-out brawl.
Not RSVP-ing – When you’ve been invited to a special event such as a wedding, have the courtesy to respond either yes or no. This will allow the host to properly plan to make sure there is enough food and proper accommodations with enough seating.
Personal experience and suggestions