It has been quite a while since I sent out a Micha’s Corner story. For those who have not read a prior Micha’s Corner article, the idea is based on this concept: Even the positive girl gets irritated sometimes.
I overheard something so bothersome this weekend that I felt compelled to write about it and get feedback from my readers.
It started when I visited the nail salon for my bi-weekly relaxing manicure. This time I was seated next to another customer who was talking so loudly that she had the attention of everyone in the salon.
The young lady was talking to a friend of hers that was sitting in the row in front of us. This, in and of itself, wasn’t too bothersome but the more she talked the more annoyed I became with her and the silly stories she was telling.
After telling her friend about her weekend and various adventures she started talking about a guy she was dating that she thinks is crazy. She told the friend that she doesn’t even like him and she is only dating him to get closer to the guy she really likes.
This young lady, judging by her looks, had to be about mid-twenties. She was still young, but old enough to know using people and playing with their emotions is not only insensitive but it can be dangerous.
The other young lady who was listening to the story continued to listen, laugh, and nod. What I kept wondering is what the friend was actually thinking. The friend seemed to agree with her approach but never really said much of anything during the conversation.
I am sure many of you see the issue already:
1) She stated the guy she is dating is “crazy.” Hmmm……red flag?
2) She doesn’t like him at all and is using him to get closer to his friend. I thought that only happened on TV.
3) She went on to the tell the friend she has started talking to the other guy through texting and phone calls but she hasn’t gone out with him yet. Why not just break up with the original guy at this point?
While I was concerned for this young lady’s lack of good decision making skills, I didn’t feel an urge to speak up and say anything to her. She is an adult, making her own decisions.
My questions for my readers are:
1) Would you have said anything either out of concern, annoyance, or obligation?
2) If your friend told you they were doing this, would you be honest and let them know they are playing a dangerous game?
3) What good could possibly come from this approach? And how can we influence people in our own lives, who think like this, to make healthier decisions for themselves and others?
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