In two months Juan Pablo Galavis went from being the most popular Bachelor ever to the most hated. On The Bachelor: After the Final Rose, Chris Harrison could barely hide his disgust with El Bachelor, the Venezuelan heartthrob who turned out to be a jerk in many women’s minds. Harrison kept trying to get Juan Pablo to say that he was in love with Nikki Ferrell-who had said those three little words to Juan Pablo weeks before. Juan Pablo wouldn’t do it.
First, No Ring
This Bachelor had chosen not to give Nikki an engagement ring. That’s what she was hoping for and fans were expecting. Juan Pablo gave her the final rose instead. Nikki’s father had told him not to give her a ring until he was 100% sure-and he had listened.
I didn’t see anything wrong with that. In fact, I respected Juan Pablo for not doing something he wasn’t ready to do.
And No “I Love You”
I also think it was trivial of Chris Harrison to keep pushing him to say those three little words. It was awkward. Nikki looked almost angry as she sat silently supporting her man. Didn’t she feel just a little sad, listening to him refuse, over and over, to say that he loved her? Kind of humiliating.
Who Is Juan Pablo?
Being a single parent myself, and having struggled trying to balance an adult relationship with my much stronger love for my child, I understand Juan Pablo when he wants to protect his daughter Camilla. But I don’t understand how he could have been so insensitive to single mother Renee. He sent her home right after meeting her son Ben and cheering him on at his baseball game.
With Claire and Sharleen, Juan Pablo seemed to be gentle, a good listener who could encourage them to say what was on their minds. But then there was his habit of saying “It’s okay.” At those times, he seemed uncaring.
Pay Attention to What He Says
“Don’t slap the hand that feeds you,” said Catherine Giudici Lowe. He chose to be The Bachelor. He got to meet a lot of beautiful women, and have a lot of “adventures.” (Do you remember when Sean Lowe talked to him about this “journey”? Juan Pablo said he didn’t like that word; he called it an “adventure.”) He showed his independence then. We should have been paying attention.
He was first attracted to Sharleen for her sophistication, her mundo. But I scratch my head picturing her practicing scales while Juan Pablo lies in bed watching sports on TV. That’s what he said he likes to do on weekends!
Nikki, were you paying attention to that?