A girlfriend of mine was complaining to me the other day about how she keeps hooking up with these guys and just when she thinks things are really progressing, her new boy toy starts losing interest. I asked her to elaborate and it was the same old story you hear a million times from women all over the world. They meet a guy, hes funny and attractive and seems really interested until they’ve hooked up a few times and then he is out the door. Trying to be a supportive friend I started sympathizing and trying to cheer her up when it dawned on me that maybe that’s not what she needs at all. Maybe she just needs a little tough love. So this is what I told her and its something that all you ladies out there need to take into consideration before getting hung up on some guy.
Listen to What He is Saying
Listen! It’s not hard ladies. A man will tell you what he wants even if hes not really saying it. If from the start all a guy asks is when you’re free to meet up or what you like to do under the covers then its clear that he doesn’t really care about anything going on with you outside of the bedroom. Even if he is hotter than wasabi, there comes a time when you need to really hear what hes saying. Sweet talking, the natural enemy of all women, is another thing you have to watch out for. Men will do and say a lot of things to get what they want. Any woman who has had experience with silver tongued lovers will be able to spot this. If he is simply telling you how beautiful you look and how much he wants you, he still just wants one thing, and we all know what that is. On the up-side, there is one way to tell if a guy genuinely wants something that’s going to last more than a few weeks. When he starts asking you questions that are a little more intimate or personal on an emotional level than he might actually care to know the answer. If you start complaining about how terrible your day was and he actually listens instead of making up an excuse to talk to you later, than he is a keeper!
Does He Actually Want to Go Out With You–Like in Public?
This is another fool proof way to see if a guy is really interested in something beyond the physical level. Is he actually asking you out on a date? So many women just jump into bed with a guy without giving him the opportunity to make it clear what he wants. I’ve heard from many of my male friends that easy girls are not necessarily appealing girls when it comes to dating. So before giving a lesson on the birds and the bees to a guy you just met, see where he is coming from first. Did he actually ask you out on a real date that doesn’t involve the backseat of his car or the futon in his apartment? If he did, then there is a good chance that he is trying to show that he is interested in more than your body. When a guy asks if you want to “hook-up” or “hang out at his place sometime,” than he probably wants to do just that.
The lesson here? Pay attention to the obvious signs that guys are giving you and maybe you won’t be so disappointed next time.