When I was younger, my parents went through a tough divorce. I got advice from a friend when I needed some help; the advice he gave me was very helpful and helped me out at a tough time. Hopefully now I can offer you the same information and help more people out. Here is the majority of what he told me, when it comes to looking for a good therapist and what has helped me find one in the past.
When it comes to picking a good therapist, you want someone who is perfect for you. You will share your personal information and very specific details about your life with your therapist,so it is very important that you are 100 percent comfortable with him or her.
Most important factors when finding the perfect therapist
These points are the most important factors when finding a great therapist. I have accompanied one of my friends to help them find the best therapist for them, and when we talked to the therapists, the main points I was looking for in that person were:
Being comfortable – It is important that you are in a comfortable position with your therapist and able to talk to them easily; being shy or finding it difficult to talk to them will hinder the help you are wanting. I found this the hardest one to deal with, telling my therapist why I felt in such ways and the reasons I did seemed so frightening. Once I got over that fear, though, I found it a huge relief and felt so much better about everything.
Friendly basis – Similarly to being comfortable, it is important to be able to treat your therapist as someone like a friend so that you can confide in them and ask for advice.
No outside relationship – It is important that your therapist doesn’t know you elsewhere, this way therapy stays with therapy and you can have peace of mind that they won’t intervene in your everyday life as well as for confidentiality.
Qualities of a good therapist – Positive, empathetic, professional, courteous, respectful, genuine and able to recognize their strengths and limitations (no false promises). If your therapist is missing any of these qualities, then consider finding a new therapist.
Searching for a Therapist
When I started out my search for a therapist, I didn’t know where to start. I chose to talk to my doctor and he offered a couple of suggestions, but I found that I was too scared to try any of them out. Looking for support, I spoke to a friend about the situation; they mentioned that they would be there for me if I needed anything. With that support and backing, I felt the courage to finally choose a therapist.
Searching for the right therapist for you can be a search of trial and error. The first therapist I chose turned out to be a bad choice for me; the therapist’s style and preferred form of therapy didn’t feel like the right fit for me. After leaving that therapist, I continued to look for one that would be best for me. Eventually, I settled on a therapist that a friend had spoken to in the past with positive results; I made an appointment and waited to see how things would go.
Immediately, I knew I had found the right therapist; they were friendly, considerate, respectful of my boundaries, and very professional. I felt more comfortable and at ease with them, more willing and able to speak about my feelings and emotions. Being able to finally have that release from those pent up issues with someone who can provide help and advice is a really great thing when in need.
It is important that you go and find a therapist whether it be a recommendation from a doctor, friend or a place that you know of. Once you have a therapist, then you need to go and talk to them and make sure that they are right for you. Don’t be afraid to give them an interview and ask them questions and even ask if they believe they can help you. Judge for yourself from the answers they give you if you want to remain seeing this therapist or continue searching for another therapist. When asking questions, you are always looking for understanding answers and signs that this person can in fact help you. Always make sure that you have friends to back you up or even go with you to check out the therapist if you are unsure or even nervous yourself. It is important that if you found the therapist through a doctor or a friend that you still see for yourself whether they are right for you. Just because one person finds a certain way of therapy the correct way for them, it does not necessarily mean that you will find that it works for you.
I hope you have found this article helpful. All the best.