Marriage obviously is a union. It should be founded on trust and commitment. Marriage is lifelong and it simply shouldn’t be taken without great consideration. When selecting a partner we have to be hundred percent sure that he/she is going to last, raise a family together and grow old together. It may seem like a fairy tale but a great marriage with the right partner lasts.
If you’re going into a marriage and request that a prenup be signed by your spouse then you need to have a wake up call. Are you hesitating something? Do you think it won’t last? Is it because you don’t trust him/her? I could emphasize with you for a minute. When you love somebody you probably love hard. You’re probably blind when seeing through someone or you don’t make the wrong mistakes. I understand why you might want a prenup to protect your best interests, simply because you never know.
Considering to get a prenup is never easy cause you may not have an idea of how your spouse is going to feel. That’s why you take may days before calling it to their attention. You walk around the house with a burden on your shoulder trying to figure out the best time to tell him/her. One day, the subject finally emerges from your mouth. It feels like a load off you for five seconds then fear and anxiety creeps up on you.
“Honey, I want us to sign a prenup. I think it would be a good idea. You know, just in case anything occurs… “
You give a long speech trying to persuade him/her, even stuttering a bit as you try to get him/her on the same page as you. After you’re finished your two hour speech, you expect him/her to say something back but there is silence. You probably feel bad and regretful. You should, for all you know you just ended something before it even started. It takes days, maybe months but he/she finally agrees. Do you think his/her opinion has changed of you?
Maybe he/she is the one or maybe not but it will be okay. Before you marry someone you should consider the time spent together. Was it good? Did time fly by? Is he/she understanding? Does he/she really know me? Is he/she a good listener? Does he/she give me butterflies in my stomach when I see them? Do I find him/her annoying? Does he lie? Is he embarrassed to show me off to people? Test him/ her on everything about you cause your heart is very fragile. It’s not something you should let someone take advantage of. You need real love after all aren’t you human too.
If you are considering a prenup then he/she is not the one. Before you consider marriage or consider moving in together, discuss finances. Have a serious chat and be upfront about everything. Even if this discussion takes place for twenty three hours, take a thirty minute break and quickly resume. Also before you get married make sure your partner knows what is required in a marriage. You will be surprised how many people are dumb founded. At the end of the day, you don’t play games when it comes to serious matters.
Basically, what I am trying to confer is that you won’t need a prenup if you find the right person. A marriage should be a good thing. You should have a partner that you look forward to coming home everything day and them likewise. It should be filled with loyalty, love, commitment, fun and most importantly laughter. You might be saying, “well how will I know if they’re the one.” You will, you will feel it. You will know.