If you are giving more than you are getting in return you may be asking yourself if your boyfriend is using you or if he really does love you. There are very easy ways to tell if you boyfriend is using you if you look closely you will get your answer.
The first sign that you’re being used is that you are constantly giving him money. It is understandable that someone may need a loan now and then but it should be a loan. If he is not paying you back what he borrows, you can rest assured that you are being used. It is time to stop the hand outs and see how long he sticks around.
The second sign that you are being used is that your relationship is mostly physical. Now we all love kissing and touching the one we love but if you find that everytime you see your boyfriend all he wants to do is have sex, there is a really big chance that you are being used. Ask him why you never go out or do anything outside of the bedroom. Express your concern to him and gauge his reaction. If he becomes defensive, you can guarantee you are being used.
Third ask yourself if he ever does anything for you. Has he ever made you dinner when you had to work late? Maybe brought you a cup of coffee to bed on your day off from work? It is these little things that will tell you if he is just using you or if he really loves you. If he wakes you up and tells you to go get him a cup of coffee, you can assume you are nothing more to him than someone to do what he wants.
Always putting his needs ahead of yours is the fourth sign that you are being used. That is not to say that occasionally he will have to put what he needs before you but if this happens more often than it doesn’t it can be a clear sign that he is using you. When we love someone we always try to put their needs ahead of our own and if he is not doing that you can be confident that he does not love you.
The final sign that your boyfriend is using you is that he does not give you the amount of attention you desire. It should be understood that he does not have to focus his entire life around you but if you are not getting at least one night a week were the two of you actually spend time together you can bet he isn’t really into you. Allow him to enjoy his guy time but make it clear that you are not just a toy to be picked up off of the shelf whenever he feels the desire to pick you up.
If you are noticing any of these signs in your relationship you need to sit down and discuss it with your boyfriend. If he is not able or willing to give you what you need and want than it is time to move on. There are plenty of good men out there who will treat you like the princess that you are and not try to use you for everything they can get.
