It’s no surprise that not all of us can take constructive criticism, especially depending on the way it’s dished out to us. Constructive criticism is basically to help you and enlighten you on something that you’ve done, in order for you to maintain that level of your craft or improve on it. Being that we are so sure that we’re good at something and know what we’re doing, sometimes it’s difficult to understand why people give us constructive criticism. It’s important to know the difference between that and being criticized, as criticizing is usually done in a negative way as opposed to giving constructive criticism, hence the word “constructive.”
Understanding its Intentions:
When it comes to being able to take constructive criticism, you first have to understand the meaning behind it. Why did this person give it to me? And the person in particular can make all the difference. Constructive criticism is not meant to be insulting, nor is it meant to make you feel like you or what you’ve done isn’t good enough. It’s meant to make you better at being you or a specific craft that you’ve been focusing on, such as writing, painting, or drawing.
Constructive criticism is meant to point out good and bad points, so you can know where to maintain and where to improve. When it comes to a specific craft, like writing songs, films, or books, it helps you understand it better as a whole and not only limited to one thing that you’ve done. Ultimately this will help you become a success at what it is you’re doing.
How to Use It:
First, consider the person giving you the constructive criticism. Sometimes, depending on who it is, it has more value and will help you more with where you need to improve as opposed to someone that’s a friend, family member, or enemy. Someone, such as a teacher, mentor, or even a celebrity can be more object and give you more valuable information so that you can perfect your craft. With friends or family, they not be as objective, giving you praise even when there’s plenty of room for improvement. With an enemy, or “frenemy” the name speaks for itself because, believe it not, there are people in this world who want you to fail. So when it comes to you listening to constructive criticism, be sure to take in consideration who the person is first and foremost. And it doesn’t hurt to get second opinions.
Listen to what the person is pointing out, trying not to take it as them not liking what you’re doing. Remember, the only reason a person gives you constructive criticism is because they want you to be better, so they’re simply trying to help you out. Keep that in mind before getting upset and think that you’re being judged.