To be called a best friend to someone is such a high honor. It means you are particularly special. Best friends are the ones you share your most important secrets with and the details of your life that others may not know. They accept you for who you are–the good, the bad and the ugly. You often find yourself spending a lot of time together whether in person or on the phone. But what happens when the friendship is changed somewhat due to your friend getting engaged while you still remain single? How should you react?
Be genuinely happy for her – This is a time of great excitement for your best friend. Share in the joy of this moment without envy and jealousy rearing its ugly head. Remember you’ll want her to be happy for you when you reach that point in your life as well.
The ring – When your best friend shows you her engagement ring don’t allow yourself to be critical or negative in any way. Don’t spoil her moment in the limelight by stealing her thunder with insensitive or thoughtless comments. Perhaps it might not be to your liking but then again it’s not yours. Give a smile and a warm hug that expresses your love for her.
Try to be available when she needs help or a listening ear – Getting engaged is a life changing event. While there will be a lot of happy chatter, there will also be some stressful times when it comes to making decisions. Give your best friend the freedom to vent while you listen.
Give the couple time together – Now that your best friend is engaged they will probably be spending a lot more time together as they make plans for their upcoming nuptials. This is new territory for them if they have never been married before. They need the time in making the transition.
Carry on with your life – Don’t feel like you are abandoning your best friend when you decide to do something with your other friends. It is a time of adjustment for both you and your best friend. While it is nice to be available as much as you can it does not mean that you put your life on hold. Continue your relationships with other friends while developing new relationships with others.
You will still probably be best friends after the wedding, but the dynamics will change. Give the new couple time to adjust to their newlywed status. One day your best friend will return the favor to you.