I have been a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM) for over five years and making friends isn’t any easier. Whether you have been living in a town for several years, or the new mom on the block, finding friends can be daunting. It was so much easier in school when you are placed in close quarters with lots of other students for days at a time. The odds were in your favor of finding someone to call a friend, and finding social settings were not as hard to come by. When you are home with your little ones, well, it lacks the adult interaction that most of us need and want. So how can you make it easier to find friends while being a stay at home mom? Here’s how I have been able to find some of my dearest friends;
SEARCH ONLINE AND PRINT MEDIA
A simple search in your web browser could reveal several groups in your local area that have formed and actively chat or meet up. I simply entered my county or city along with keywords such as mommy community, or play date and found numerous groups in my area. Also, family news publications in our county also offer a printed list of highlighted groups in their publication. These magazines can be found near kid or family friendly retail shops, restaurants, and entertainment venues. I have found that some groups are very specific to the age of the children, or specific allergies, as well as broader groups that simply require you to be a mother.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
Going to the library or visiting a park are great ways to spend quality time and usually an inexpensive outing with your child or children. Libraries offer rhyme time, story time, or other free events. I attended these programs for myself even more so than I did for my son. He enjoyed playing with other kids, and I was glad to postpone cleaning the house. Running into the same mothers week after week helped me to gain familiarity and gumption to open a conversation.
USE YOUR KIDS
While this phrase in any other context would land you in a heap of trouble, my kids are social butterflies and handle the ice breaking. It is a challenge for me to start conversations with strangers, but my kids have the ability to stumble, squeal, or smile their way into chatting with other children. Opening up with questions about another mother’s child usually opens the door to a bountiful conversation. At least for me it does. I love talking about my kids! If the conversation is stunted by nap times, or having to leave, at least I was able explore another parenting technique and carry a conversation that did not end with “because I said so!”
TAKE A CHANCE
I could have chosen to stay at home, or not posted potentially embarrassing questions in parenting online communities asking for help or advice regarding my child, but I did. I went out on a limb in hopes that I wouldn’t be criticized for my parenting or even who I am. Making friends is tough. It is even more challenging as texting becomes replaced with verbal conversation. Taking that chance is worth it, especially when you find a new friend who was willing to do the same. Using these ideas will help you find and make friends when you are a stay at home mom.