Every once and awhile we need to remind our friends that they deserve better. And not a better career, home, life, our outfit. I mean a better person to call their significant other. If you have that friend in your life right now, and you need help telling him or her that it’s time to move on, then read on.
Sometimes our friends can get so caught up in the relationship they’re in, that they can’t see what in the world is going on. They think they are in the best relationship ever, while you sit on the sidelines wishing their relationship would end already. That’s when you need to step in.
The first clue that it’s time to say something is: Is your friend really happy or not? Let’s face it, no matter how much you may despise your friend’s significant other, if they are truly happy, then you need to step away. Because in the end, that’s all you should want for your friend. But if you can tell that the happiness isn’t genuine or non-existent, then you need to bring that to your friend’s attention.
Another clue that it’s time for you to speak up is when your friend starts making excuses for their significant other’s poor behavior. Are you realizing that the guy or girl is either constantly sick, or always busy, or seems to consistently have other plans when it comes to putting your friend first? Then you need to bring that to your friend’s attention. If you feel like you are beginning to spend more time with your friend than his or her significant other, then it’s time to say something.
And lastly, if it seems like your friend’s pal just does not want to commit, then you need to tell your friend that it’s time to quit. Yes, there are tons of reasons why he or she can’t be in a relationship right now, but if a relationship is what your friend wants, then there’s no need to be waiting around. Remind your friend that they deserve all that they want out of a partner, and if that person can’t give them what they want, then they should find someone who will. (And they can use you as their wingman or wingwoman while doing so. Win-win for the both of you.)
So in conclusion, yes, it might be hard to confront your friend about your concerns with their dating choices, but if you truly are their good friend, then you need to do it. Always remind them that you have their best interest in mind, and you’re doing it because you want them to be truly happy. Because let’s be honest, if you were dating a jerk yourself, you’d want your friend to let you know too. Again, win-win for the both of you.