In this modern world, the concept of going out on a date has taken an impersonal, boring, route. But in this article, I have a solution. That solution is to go out on a real old fashioned date. I think, also, the younger generation experiences this. They see that traditional dating is not necessarily happening as much. These would be things like calling someone up and saying “I would like to take you to dinner.” Well I’ve heard this from women everywhere, that the art of dating has vanished. It has just disappeared, and that is the reason traditional dating needs to come back.
When it comes to dating, you mostly hear of the last minute text message, or the late night hangout, and that’s not good enough. If you ask around what women are saying, you’ll find it’s very shocking. A lot of women in a relationship say they don’t even have a specific night set aside for a date with their partner. Other women say that they have wondered at some point, recently, if this is even a date that they’re on. That’s not a good thing. And some women say they haven’t even been on a date in the past year. This is just not good.
Okay, so how are these traditional dates bringing back the date? I have some tips for people to get back on track in that traditional dating sense. Well, so the idea is all about making an appointment to connect. That’s all a date really is. When you think about it, it’s a one-on-one time to enrich our romantic connection with another person, whether it’s a long standing partner or someone that you’re just getting to know. Really what a date is, is one person asking the other and then making a plan. It’s putting some thought into what the evening is going to look like.
I like some of these other tips that I have. Be courteous. Keep the phones off the tables and in your pockets. A date is two people, so no double dates. Focus on just the two of you. You shouldn’t whine about a date. What do I mean about no whining? If someone does go out of their way to make the date happen and you get a special occasion, enjoy it. Enjoy it for what it is. You know, a date doesn’t have to be a four-star dinner and a private concert. Now that sounds like a fantastic date, but dates can come in all shapes and sizes. The important thing is that it’s two people and it’s just the two of you enriching that connection, and it’s fun.
It’s also important to end the date promptly. That does mean you’ll have to sort of keep them wondering a little bit. I mean it doesn’t hurt to leave a little bit of mystery there. But really what’s important is, at the end of the date, there’s a beginning, a middle, and an end. It’s important that you know ahead of time when that end is going to come.
It’s interesting, especially with the younger generation. The reason that traditional dating is has become bad is because of those websites like Tinder, and all of those things where people think they can just casually meet up and the girls would just be there. Social media has infiltrated the traditional date. Smartphones have really helped us out in some ways because they’ve made it easier to connect, to find people to connect with. But then when it comes to the date itself, phones can really get in the way. They’re a distraction. At the same time, we’re all busier than ever. We’re working longer hours. We’re over scheduled, and people are approaching these dates like a pitch meeting. It’s like they’re sitting down for a 20 minute coffee or a quick drink somewhere and trying to sell themselves. It’s not really about that romance or that sense of expectation anymore. That’s what is really missing.
Well probably every woman will agree with this, but guys, this is just a little piece of advice. If you go back to the old school dating, pick up the phone, make a phone call, ask for a proper date, take her to dinner, and open her door. Trust me it works. It works every time. Take her out to dinner tonight.
