With divorce rates sky rocketing many people are faced with the challenge of handling visitation with their children while going through a divorce. I have seen so many different situations but one sticks out in my mind right now. It was an instance where the wife repeatedly cheated on the husband, after eleven years of being cheated on he had finally had enough and filed for divorce. She in turn decided to give him hell every single time he wanted to see his kids. Because of all of the problems she was causing, she pushed him away from his children to the point that he gave up being able to see them. He said he couldn’t deal with her any longer and if seeing his kids meant he had to deal with her, he couldn’t do it. How do we ensure this does not happen when we are going through a divorce?
First of all, as a woman we should want the father of our children in their lives, as long as they are not abusive, neglectful, on drugs, or involved in some other crazy circumstance it is our job to ensure the children continue to have a strong bond with their dad. So if you are the mother and you are causing the father of your children to jump through hoops in order to see his children, enough. It is time for you to grow up and put your children before yourself.
Second, if you are the father of a child and you are going through a similar situation, here are a few things you can do to try and keep the peace. First you must put your feelings aside for a minute and thing about what your soon to be ex-wife is going through. Trying to keep your kids away from you if you are not with her is simply about trying to keep control over you and keep you in her life. You may look at her and say oh no that is not it, you believe that she really does want to get a divorce, but this could be one last sting to grasp onto in order to try and force you back into her life.
Do not allow someone to have that type of control over you. You should talk to your attorney about what is going on and record every bit of it so you can take it to court with you. Continue to try to see the children but if she gives you problems simply record it and use it to your benefit. You have to be ready to understand that there are going to be times that you plan on having your children when she will cause such turmoil that you will not be able to do so. You cannot let this cause you pain. You have to once again record it for court, and then put your feelings to the side. You must remember that this is a battle and you will be going to war. If you do not have the right ammunition, you will lose. If you record everything she does to keep you away from your children you will win and you will see them very soon.
So men keep your head up, things will work out in the end. Just remember do not let this woman get to you and do not let her manipulate you. You are fighting the right fight and when it comes down to it a judge is going to see that you have done everything in your power to see your children.