Are you that special person who was chosen to be the Maid of Honor, or Best Man this wedding season? If so, congratulations! You have been given the ultimate privilege of speaking at the reception, with your speech being heard by all of the wedding guests, and going down as one of the most memorable moments of the bride and groom’s lives. Forever. And ever. No pressure, right? Wrong! If you’re nervous, worried, or simply stressed out about your speech, here are a few tips to make the day a little less tense for you, and all of the wedding guests who will be witnessing you.
It’s not about you, it’s about them. Before anything else, be sure to focus on the bride and groom when writing your speech. They asked you to be a Maid of Honor or Best Man for a reason. Give them that reason in your speech. You know exactly why they chose you to speak and stand beside them on one of the most important days of their lives. So talk about that. Whether it be fond memories, or special moments you shared with them, just be sure to include them in your speech. Remember you may be the one who is speaking, but you’re speaking about them.
Weddings can be serious, but your speech doesn’t have to be. Love, joy, and happiness are what this day is full of, so continue that in your speech. It’s okay, and actually appreciated, if you can make them laugh while you’re speaking. Bringing up a funny moment in their relationship, or a funny quote you remember is always a good thing. Here’s a tip if you’re single: The more laughs you can get in your speech, the more numbers you’ll be able to get afterwards. Wink, wink.
Keep it short and sweet, personal, but neat. I’m sure you may have lots to say to the bride and groom on this very special day, but they don’t have to hear ALL of it right now. Maybe you’ve thought of sharing that long drunken night you had together, or that time you remembered when they broke up. Well think again. Some things are better left unsaid, especially on their wedding day. No one, including the bride and groom, want to be reminded of these private moments in their lives on this day. You can laugh about that later during the after party. But for right now, just think short, sweet, personal, but neat, and you won’t be responsible for initiating their first fight as husband and wife.
And lastly, have fun. Take the pressure off of yourself. The fact that they asked you to be such an important part of their day is huge enough. Speak from your heart, and you’ll be fine. (And if you need additional help, there’s always wine.) Good luck!